Feeling extremely hopeless

[Lizrd3000]

I woke up from a dream today, where i met a old women who really resembled my ex. We were so very in love in my dream, and then I woke up. I dont think i can ever get over her. The bad times just outweights the good, because the good times just feel fake and empty. They have no meaning.

 

I dont think i can live with this feeling anymore, i feel very suicidal and really want it to end, even though I wont do that, the feeling is still very much there with no escape.

 

Can anyone please share some personal stories from their first love, how much and how long theyve been hurting, and how they got over them? And possibly are happy right now? I could really use some motivation right now. Feeling even worse then right ****ing after the break up..

[wizer]

I read several of your back posts, and it appears this is not the first breakup, it's one of many, and yes it may very well be the last, and if so it's probably a really good thing because you've been on a rollercoaster ride with this women for the last couple of years.

 

Look what you wrote in November 2013:

 

I'm happy where I'm at right now, I became a better person, thanks to you, maybe if you didn't act so cold I wouldn't have become like this, so I'm thankful, no anger, don't worry. I started dancing again, and I'm really looking forward to it all''

 

it was complete honesty,

 

You were in a good place following the breakup back then, you were well on the way to recovery, and she sucked you back in yet again, so you've got to go through the grieving process from scratch. This keeps happening and it takes a lot out of you, point being that you did it before, you can do it again and when you look at how many years you've been wasting with this girl, it's a really good thing that this particular chapter of your life is closed and you can heal for good this time.

[Yummm]

I'm so sorry you're going through this bro.

 

I'm also getting over my first love, it's so painful but it does get easier.

 

How long have you been broken up for, and more importantly, are you in strict NC?

 

I'm still not over it, but I am getting better, everyday, every week. Days are slow, they feel monotonous but it does get easier.

 

Stay strong my man

[Lizrd3000]

I'm so sorry you're going through this bro.

 

I'm also getting over my first love, it's so painful but it does get easier.

 

How long have you been broken up for, and more importantly, are you in strict NC?

 

I'm still not over it, but I am getting better, everyday, every week. Days are slow, they feel monotonous but it does get easier.

 

Stay strong my man

we broke up 13th of may, then went nc for a month, had a brief non emotional invested conversation of about 2 minutes on text. Then went nc again which is almost 2 weeks now. I did cave in and checked her fb to be honest. But i dont feel as if it puts me back. I feel like im waiting for that one picture with another guy thatll destroy me. A little self defeating... i dont know why i do it. I did see some pictures of her having fun with friends, and it really made me happy for her, i really want her to be happy. But it stings at the same time.

 

Days arent slow really, but they feel empty. I cant remember the way she feels when i touched her hair. And i'd do almost everything to know how it feels again.

 

Also something to note is that this dream i had makes me feel as if i really will never get over her. I also compare every freaking girl i see on the street with my ex, and she's really good looking, so i havent seen someone better looking than her as of yet.

 

Thanks for the responses, and i really hope you can continue on this road yumm. You give great advice and youre there for people. Appreciate that

[Lizrd3000]

I read several of your back posts, and it appears this is not the first breakup, it's one of many, and yes it may very well be the last, and if so it's probably a really good thing because you've been on a rollercoaster ride with this women for the last couple of years.

 

Look what you wrote in November 2013:

 

I'm happy where I'm at right now, I became a better person, thanks to you, maybe if you didn't act so cold I wouldn't have become like this, so I'm thankful, no anger, don't worry. I started dancing again, and I'm really looking forward to it all''

 

it was complete honesty,

 

You were in a good place following the breakup back then, you were well on the way to recovery, and she sucked you back in yet again, so you've got to go through the grieving process from scratch. This keeps happening and it takes a lot out of you, point being that you did it before, you can do it again and when you look at how many years you've been wasting with this girl, it's a really good thing that this particular chapter of your life is closed and you can heal for good this time.

 

We did break up once before, but that was after 6 months of dating. This time around we were together for 2 years, and i got to love her more maturely this time.. it's way harder now, and less possible to get over her. I do agree that its better this way, but i don't think i can get over her. Im a person that really holds on to the past and try to make sense of things, and i can see myself becoming a wandering depressed zombie again.

 

Damn, i wrote a better reply, but copy paste failed and i cant get it back ****.

[wizer]

1.5 additional years since the last breakup may feel like a lot but it really isn't. People break up after being together 20 or 30 YEARS.

 

The mind plays tricks. Roll with it as best you can and know that you can and will get to a better place and leave all this behind you.

[hotmrw]

I feel like I am living dead, I neglected my ex, for two years, in the end she left me for another guy, I have tried everything, she just isn't interested any more, she has clearly moved on, she is going to Thailand with him, breaks my heart, we have a little 13 month old daughter together, I feel I have let her down so much, I have had the suicidal thoughts, the feeling of being powerless kills me, she shown me she loved me so much and now I see so little, she cares for me, she says she loves me but I know she loves another also, I am starting no contact tomorrow, I asked her not to contact me until I contact her, she agreed but has never gone longer than 2 days without contacting me, the days are long and depressing, my heart is in a million pieces, this is my third heartbreak, I cant do it any more, all I do is lose lose lose, I feel so down, I cant change things, I thought that because we have a child together and she still loves me that there would be a chance, it looks like there isn't.....

[grammiann]

I'm really sorry about the turmoil you're in. Breakups do hurt, especially when you've invested so much of yourself and your heart in a relationship.

 

I can assure you that you will get through this. Time heals, especially if you have supportive friendships and you're working on your other goals in life. If these feelings continue, you might look into therapy - it can help you get clarity and a new sense of direction.

 

Hang in there, OK? God bless you!

[na49]

Last night must have been a night to dream about our ex's lol. I dreamt that I was looking at pictures of her having fun with her friends. Weird.. I know.

 

Anyway, you know I'm in the same boat as you. I also contemplate suicide, and some days I don't want to actually kill myself, but I want to die. Like I wouldn't mind some freak accident doing the work for me. It's a terrible way to live, and I don't have a success story for you. Just know that whatever you are feeling, I am probably feeling something similar.

 

Your good times are real, and they are proof that there is still joy in your life after your ex. It might not be as good, but don't tell yourself they are fake. There's no magic bullet. If there was, then forums like these wouldn't be so active. Everyone goes through it, and everyone survives it. If everyone else can do it, I'm pretty sure that we can too.