What is he trying to do?

[crazychick]

Alright so this guy is just messing with me. I mentioned that my ex called me right before I went on vacation last weekend. I was packing when he called and I was feeling fine about everything and I actualy thought it was no big deal that he called and that I was moving forward. Well then while I was gone, he called me like 5 times. Wanted to chat, he's going thru a quarter-life crisis he says, blah blah blah. Then as quickly as the phone calls started they stopped. And then I haven't heard from him since. I have no clue what he is doing. Is he just checking to make sure I still have feelings for him? Why is he trying to mess with me like this? I have left him alone not called, and even stopped thinking about him as much. And now this whole thing has got me wondering. Why couldn't he just leave well enough alone? I just don't get it.

[MadDog]

Does it really matter why he's calling? Just ignore him.

 

If I had to make a guess though, he's probably calling because he's wondering if you're over him. If you call him back, he'll know that you're not over him. The fact that you care as to the reason why he called indicates to me that you're not completely over him. Continue to occupy your mind with other things like you seem to have been doing and you'll be ok.

[crazychick]

More than likely you are right on both counts. One - I think he does want to see if I am over him, testing the waters. But he doesn't want me back. He just wants me to want him I think. Two - I am not completely over him. I need more time. I think thats ok, when you spend over a year of your life with someone, it takes time to get over not having him there everyday. I don't hurt as much as I did in the beginning, and I don't miss him the same way, but I still have my moments. I just wish he would not do this to me. I have been so good about not calling him. I guess what I don't understand is why he needs this validation from me? He's such a jerk about it too. I just don't get it.