writergal Posted June 26, 2015 Posted June 26, 2015 I took the job....now to tell her that I did. I know it's gonna end the relationship...but I gotta do what's best for my future Congratulations you made the best choice for YOU. If she wants to be with you, and she's mature and is willing to compromise, she will support your decision and she will make an effort to keep in contact with you, and visit you. But, if she is selfish, she will gaslight you and try to make you feel guilty for seizing a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity career-wise for you. Do not let her guilt-trip you. Supportive relationship partners do not guilt trip in these types of situations, they only show support because they want YOU to be happy. Oh, and you will meet the right woman for you in your new city if this 6-week long dating relationship doesn't work out. For now, be excited. Revel in your great outcome! Celebrate!
Author Concreteman78 Posted June 27, 2015 Author Posted June 27, 2015 I start July 20th. Ill be living on the outskirts of Detroit. Ill be in training for 3-4 months. Then I'll be headed to the headquarters just outside of Milan, Italy for the entire month of January. I will be the field service tech for this company traveling Monday thru Friday every week with the occasional weekend included. I found this position from becoming friends with the existing tech when he came to train me and my old company when we bought one of their laser cnc machines. It intrigued me so much working with these amazing machines. I stayed in contact with him over the past few years and when I lost my job a few months back...he hit me up saying he's moving up in the company and is needing someone to replace him. He thought I'd be the perfect guy...I sent my resume...waited. Few weeks later I got a call. They sent me to Michigan for an interview and testing. I felt I did ok for they was an intense test. Few weeks later. They offered me the position. My dream job! I couldn't be happier or more excited. Traveling the world working on high technology lasers. This is gonna be fun! 1
Elleque Posted June 27, 2015 Posted June 27, 2015 Congratulations!!! Sounds like a once in a lifetime opportunity. Have you told her yet, how did she take it?
Els Posted June 27, 2015 Posted June 27, 2015 Take the job. 6 weeks is a very, very short time - you have not even begun to skim the surface of what a person is really like at that point. If you had been together for a few years and survived the end of the honeymoon phase, then I can understand the dilemma, but at this point all you really have is a rose-tinted image of the lady. There is no contest IMO. Edit: Oops, just noticed that you did indeed take it. Congratulations!
len51 Posted June 28, 2015 Posted June 28, 2015 I relocated 7 times to reach the second highest position in an international company. While I enjoy a very handsome salary and 25% of all company profits, it did not come without sacrifices. BTW, my job entails travelling all around the world. 19 countries so far. 1
StanMusial Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 If you are traveling enough you can probably work out of a home office that's convenient to a suitable airport. Been there done that. But I am going to say, the extensive travel is more of a risk to potential relationships than relocation. Also been there done that.
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