Bobbi7 Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 These are my experiences from online dating, guys send me a message-I response back-they "flirt" via message, etc,etc. They say they like my profile picture, etc. We meet in person-guy looks me over-then I think to myself maybe I should have dressed more sexy because I get the "not attracted to me" vibes from them. Throughout the date-there is talk, but no "flirting" no touching, no romantic gestures. I'm like what the heck??? And half of the time, the date ends there-never hear back from them. Can someone tell me what went wrong? They had no problem flirting via messages BEFORE meeting in person, but when we met in person-the guys were just not even remotely wanting me. Should I have put on a tight dress or something?
pewpew Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 Well sometimes in person could be totally different to what's happening online. Sometimes you may just not be attracted or connect with them no matter how well you seemed to online. A guy not flirting though may not necessarily mean he's doesn't like you. Some guys can be more reserved and maybe he's shy! and doesn't want to make a move on the first date. I think you can normally gauge from how you interact with each other if there is a connection and if that's there then the flirting will just happen!
fitnessfan365 Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 Any guy can act confident via email or text. But it takes real confidence/balls to carry that over in person. So you'll get a lot of guys online talking big and then on the date itself, they're stiff and timid. One piece of advice I'll give is to try and at least have a phone conversation before meeting. I find this to be a better gauge of someone's personality.
alphamale Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 These are my experiences from online dating, guys send me a message-I response back-they "flirt" via message, etc,etc. They say they like my profile picture, etc. We meet in person-guy looks me over-then I think to myself maybe I should have dressed more sexy because I get the "not attracted to me" vibes from them. Throughout the date-there is talk, but no "flirting" no touching, no romantic gestures. I'm like what the heck??? And half of the time, the date ends there-never hear back from them. Can someone tell me what went wrong? They had no problem flirting via messages BEFORE meeting in person, but when we met in person-the guys were just not even remotely wanting me. Should I have put on a tight dress or something? showing more skin never hurt anyone
JJCaliGirl Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 Any guy can act confident via email or text. But it takes real confidence/balls to carry that over in person. So you'll get a lot of guys online talking big and then on the date itself, they're stiff and timid. One piece of advice I'll give is to try and at least have a phone conversation before meeting. I find this to be a better gauge of someone's personality. I agree with this. Fitnessfan has also said before to limit texting before you meet otherwise you end up with a texting relationship before actually meeting which can do bad things for how you think this person really is vs reality. Not saying you're the problem but too much texting isn't good for the first date.
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