Popsicle Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 This guy who works at the same company I do (don't know him well) just came into my office, closed the door and says hey what are you doing tonight? I said nothing. He says Oh and then just looks down at the pear he has in his hand that he's bouncing in his hand. Awkward silence for a few moments (I was confused) then I asked him some questions about what he does in the other side of the building. Then he tells me he's into Brazilian Jiu-jitsu, then we talk about that a bit, then he says goodbye and leaves. Weird. Men are weird.
Author Popsicle Posted June 24, 2015 Author Posted June 24, 2015 Do you want to go out with him? He's too young, I think
jen1447 Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 Ok. Well he was totally trying to ask you out. You might want to go find him and 'fix' how that ended for his sake bc he totally crashed and burned and he probably feels like sh*t right now. 1
GorillaTheater Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 Of course he was hitting on you. And you basically shot him down in flames. 2
Kamille Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 Of course he was hitting on you. And you basically shot him down in flames. How? When she said she had nothing planned for that evening, shouldn't he have replied with a suggestion. You know : Young One: "What are you doing tonight?" Popsicle: "Nothing" Young One: "My favorite band is playing in Park Sunny. Do you want to come?" 5
Author Popsicle Posted June 24, 2015 Author Posted June 24, 2015 Of course he was hitting on you. And you basically shot him down in flames. I did?????
GorillaTheater Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 How? When she said she had nothing planned for that evening, shouldn't he have replied with a suggestion. You know : Young One: "What are you doing tonight?" Popsicle: "Nothing" Young One: "My favorite band is playing in Park Sunny. Do you want to come?" I did????? When I asked a girl out (which he clearly was even though he wasn't being terribly direct about it0, and got crickets in return, I took that as a pretty clear "thanks , but hell no". But maybe I misunderstood. Did you actually say "nothing", or did you say nothing. Big difference. 2
Bobbi7 Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 I didn't know this was considered getting hit on! I'm clueless when it comes to these things. Maybe he was curious to see if you were doing anything interesting? Odd, that he didn't say what his plans for the night were. 1
Author Popsicle Posted June 24, 2015 Author Posted June 24, 2015 When I asked a girl out (which he clearly was even though he wasn't being terribly direct about it0, and got crickets in return, I took that as a pretty clear "thanks , but hell no". But maybe I misunderstood. Did you actually say "nothing", or did you say nothing. Big difference. I said the word "nothing". As in, I wasnt doing anything tonight. 1
GorillaTheater Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 I said the word "nothing". As in, I wasnt doing anything tonight. Ah. Then in that case I'd say that you might be right; he's either weird or more likely, just lost his nerve. Maybe he'll gut up and try again. 1
neowulf Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 Nah, you didn't shoot him down OP. He just choked. You basically handed him an opening on a platter, but it sounds like it hadn't planned that far ahead. "Oh, I'll just strike up a conversation with her" "So.. what are you up to tonight?" "Nothing..." "<well... she's blown me off.. *sigh*... ah well" 1
doeblin Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 I didn't know this was considered getting hit on! I'm clueless when it comes to these things. Maybe he was curious to see if you were doing anything interesting? Odd, that he didn't say what his plans for the night were. When someone from the opposite sex you barely know asks about your plans for the evening/weekend, there's like 99% chance he/she would like to ask you out. The guy basically was not confident enough to go through with it. 2
rester Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 I said the word "nothing". As in, I wasnt doing anything tonight. It's a pretty bold move to walk into someone's office that you don't know well, and then close the door and ask what they are doing that night. One would think if they have the nerve to do that, that they are 80% there. That was indeed a strange interaction. Maybe he was looking for you to ask him why he was asking? It's odd, that's for sure. 2
Author Popsicle Posted June 24, 2015 Author Posted June 24, 2015 I wasn't being hit on. A girl I work with just told me that she thinks he just likes to hang out and kill time around here so he doesn't have to go back to work.
Versacehottie Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 yeah it would have been ideal if you have said: "nothing, why what are you doing?" to at least start up a banter, friendship, maybe more. If the only thing you can find wrong with him at a glance is that he "might" be too young, I think it might have been worth more exploring. And yes, I think he also wanted to ask you out. Too bad he didn't really have the guts to go all the way through with it. Though shutting the door, that's pretty major. I would try to fix it as jen said even if you for sure don't want to go out with him. Doesn't hurt to be friendly and obviously he has good taste 1
fitnessfan365 Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 Haha.. Big difference in description between : I said nothing. - This makes it sound like you just stayed silent. I said "nothing" - This makes it clear you said nothing when he asked you. In your opening post it comes off like he walked in, asked what you were up to tonight, and you just looked at him resulting in awkward silence. But if you actually told him nothing as in no plans, he could have responded with 'Great. Let's grab a drink later". But instead he just pussy footed around, made small talk, and left. But to answer your original question, I think he was trying to ask you out, because why else would he ask what your plans were for the evening? 1
wizer Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 A guy you barely know walks into your office, CLOSES THE DOOR, acts nervous and asks you a meaningless question. I am wondering how close you were to being sexually assaulted. 1
Kamille Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 I wasn't being hit on. A girl I work with just told me that she thinks he just likes to hang out and kill time around here so he doesn't have to go back to work. Too funny. But how many people work in your office? Is he really known to just randomly walk into near stranger's offices and ask them what they are doing that evening? 1
h0000 Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 Im a little confused. Why do you guys think he is asking her out? because he said "hey what are you doing tonight"? Many guys have asked me "what are you doing over the weekend" and i always think that's a conversation starter 1
doeblin Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 Why do you guys think he is asking her out? Meaning is bounded by context. 2
jen1447 Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 We can analyze all the possible meanings of every word for all eternity or we can just cut to the chase - he wanted to ask popsicle out. End. Who knows what the other coworker was on about but it doesn't really matter. 1
h0000 Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 Meaning is bounded by context. He might just be making conversations, no? 1
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