rara Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 No one is answering on the friends forum so I thought I'd try here. I have a friend (friends for years) who I thought dropped a hint that he liked me a while back - maybe 8 months or so ago. I'm so bad at all of this that I think I may even be making this hint up in my head. He basically said he wanted to meet someone and then asked about my plans for my love life. Anyway if he did or not whatever, I shut it down because I wasn't sure about dating him. My feelings then changed (I wrote about this before) and I didn't know how to drop hints and I was advised on LS to try and meet with him and flirt. He is out of town for a long time so I don't really get to see him often so this would be hard. He does call me a lot though. Anyway it looked like the situation might change as he said he'd come on holiday with me. I totally thought it would happen on holiday but it didn't Just the two of us, traveling around for 2 weeks, sharing bedrooms (not beds) and nothing. We acted like a married couple in all ways except one. I mean NOTHING AT ALL. I'm totally confused, was he waiting for me to do something as he possibly had hinted prior and thought he'd just look creepy trying it on in a foreign country? Or am I just overthinking his lack of romantic interest in me? He was weird at times during the trip. Like once we were going to dinner so I put on this dress - nothing fancy and no OTT makeup but compared to the red sweaty face and jeans he had seen to date I guess I did look nice! Anyway he said 'you look nice' was normal for like 2 minutes then acted like a total idiot all night. He barely spoke to me, walked off quickly in front of me with me trailing behind, crossed the road without me leaving me standing on the other side (though he did wait and then walk off again). So I made the only assumption I could make, that he thought I was dressing up for him and he should make it clear that he didn't want anything to happen. At the end of the trip he mentioned that evening saying I had been sulking! (Not true!! I was totally happy and ready to enjoy an evening out). What was that about? There were a few weird incidences like the one above, I even wondered if I was totally annoying him. Even though we seemed to getting on well. But then at other times he was a total gent, carrying my case, paying for dinner, doing things I wanted to do and coming with me even if he didn't want to do it. Part of me thinks if you really do not find a female friend attractive why go on holiday just the two of you? I don't think he's been away alone with a female friend before so it is a special situation for both of us. Then on the plane back he complained the guy in front was reclining so he moved seats away from me! I was alone for the flight. I figured he didn't want to spend hours sitting next me and used that as a lame excuse. When we changed airplanes to our respective towns he gave me a hug and I didn't expect to hear from him for a couple of weeks. But when I landed there were 2 random pictures of the airport he landed in (of posters of an animal he knows I don't like) whatsapped to me, I replied, then he messaged about his crazy taxi ride home and then 'great trip'. I don't think he has a ton of experience, could that play a part? Or is he just not that into me and acted all weird at times because he was freaked out that I'd jump on him in the middle of the night of something? lol Also, I really need to know. Should I just ask him straight up? I so nearly did on holiday but couldn't get the courage.
brokengirl85 Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 Don't ask him out. If he really liked you, he would make the effort. Sorry I haven't read your all thread.
mystikmind2005 Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 what is his relationship history like? If he is shy, then that holiday would have been very painful for him! That kind of stress would bring on some strange behavior for sure. Anyway, since you did shut him down before, you may have to be the one to initiate i think?
pewpew Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 Well maybe he does like you and he's just shy? and maybe he's clueless as to how you feel bout him and he might not want to ruin the friendship you have if he makes a move. On the other hand when you mention the night you went out that's pretty weird behaviour from him and he may just like you as a friend. I have a kinda similar situation at the moment with a friend of mine not knowing how she really feels and me not wanting to ruin a friendship if she doesn't feel the same way, I guess the only way we will find out is if we make a move (or wait for them to which may never happen! haha) that's the only way your going to know for sure.
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