locabs Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 (edited) I have been talking to this guy since March. We see each other during the week and weekends, we have sex, I have met a few of his friends minus his family, he has met my family and a few of my friends, and says he really enjoys spending time with me and likes me. He says he knows what he wants, and wants something more, basically looking for a girlfriend. I don't know if it matters, he's 24 and I'm 21. He says that I'm not open enough and that I'm sometimes hard to talk to and a little shy. I feel like this could be the reason, but at the same time I have shared many things with him that only a few people know. I'm not sure if he's using it as an excuse. We talked about sex with other people and dating other people. I'm the type of woman to date one person at a time because it's easier for me, and he mentioned he holds the same values. He is not dating anyone else, and is not having sex. I trust him on that. Yesterday I brought up the exclusive, boyfriend girlfriend talk. We talked about it, but he says "he hasn't seen all that he needs to see to 100% commit" and that "the timing is just not right" I asked him, "then what are we doing here?" He responded " I enjoy seeing you, I like you, you are funny, nice, beautiful etc., but I'm still getting to know you" My question is, if a guy says "he's not ready" or "the timing isn't right" does it mean he doesn't want to date you ever and is waiting for something better to come along? Despite all the nice comments and how he makes me feel, does it matter if he has said these things? Should I move on? Edited June 24, 2015 by locabs
mystikmind2005 Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 Seems like you are a bit insecure? Perhaps that is what is holding him back? If that is the case then you have to ask yourself what does it benefit you to be insecure? You may as well believe in yourself, your relationship and your boyfriends feelings for you.... and be surprised if it ends. Living in fear of it ending will not lessen the pain when it happens, but most likely it will be the cause of it happening!
pewpew Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 Well it sounds like he does like you and it might just be he has a problem with the whole making it official commitment thing? Some guys are happy just going along with how things are without the whole boyfriend/girlfriend label being attached. If he also said he's not interested in seeing other people and you trust him on that then it's probably true if you had an open talk about it and he was totally scared of the whole commitment thing he may have run at the mention of it or jumped on the chance to see other people. I'd probably go along with how things are but it's a question of how important it is to you that you two make it official.
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