tom1666 Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 Hi All. Just a short post. Long story short but I've been NC now for 2 weeks today after my ex-gf told me she didn't want to be with me, it's not working out for her and she doesn't see a future for us. Harsh but that's just how it goes sometimes. Really surprised that she hasn't at least reached out to text or anything considering we spoke all the time. I've wanted to text her so many times but have always stood firm and NC. I don't really know what the point in this post is I just wanted to say how I felt... Still feel gutted she broke up with me and I do believe we will cross again. Hope is a horrible thing, but not being loved by someone you love is even worse. Onwards and up. Tom 1
sowhynot Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 I've wanted to text her so many times but have always stood firm and NC. That's the idea. Hang on in there.....
bigfred Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 beleive me do not break no contact no matter what, eventully she will call and then, it will be up to you to pick up the phone or not, if you do and she is all nice just be nice and make it short and make it seem that you have been busy and going out but be breif if she starts to ask more question just tell her nicely that you need to go. and dont call her again or text wait till she calls again, belive me she will!! and then you do that a few times and when your ready try to spark things up again only if you feel that she is giving you the right vibes!!
wizer Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 eventully she will call ..wait till she calls again, belive me she will!! His ex gf clearly stated that she did not want to be with him anymore. So why would you say that she will eventually call and to believe you that she will call. You're doing nothing more than giving him unsubstantiated false hopes. Very often, they do not ever call again because it's over. Just like they said it was. 2
Happines Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 I am in a similar situation...my boyfriend of 2 years was not treating me right and I decided to move out hoping that he will realise how important I am to him to get himself sorted...even know he said he will seek help and make us work...after me moving out he did some things to make me hurt and so I told him that if he is not bothered to working on it then he should not contact me...so no contact between us for nearly three weeks and I think he really moved on...prob already seeing someone Yes it hurts like hell and I mean I was crying for some time not eating not sleeping...but then u know stat I realised that if that person really loved me and wanted to b with me he would of actually go to doctor as he said instead of chatting to girls do it simply means he didn't care enough so yes it will hurt but I need to move on to get over it give myself some time to get happy and then maybe I will meet someone that will rock my world and will treat me amazingly Same goes to u...she doesn't contact you coz she is not bothered or already seeing someone...u deserve better so do things to forget her
Author tom1666 Posted June 24, 2015 Author Posted June 24, 2015 I am in a similar situation...my boyfriend of 2 years was not treating me right and I decided to move out hoping that he will realise how important I am to him to get himself sorted...even know he said he will seek help and make us work...after me moving out he did some things to make me hurt and so I told him that if he is not bothered to working on it then he should not contact me...so no contact between us for nearly three weeks and I think he really moved on...prob already seeing someone Yes it hurts like hell and I mean I was crying for some time not eating not sleeping...but then u know stat I realised that if that person really loved me and wanted to b with me he would of actually go to doctor as he said instead of chatting to girls do it simply means he didn't care enough so yes it will hurt but I need to move on to get over it give myself some time to get happy and then maybe I will meet someone that will rock my world and will treat me amazingly Same goes to u...she doesn't contact you coz she is not bothered or already seeing someone...u deserve better so do things to forget her Thanks just having a bad day I guess. Can't stop thinking anout her!! It's a real shame about your situation also, it does leave you wondering if they ever loved you when they can drop you like that...so fast and cruel. As per earlier comments- I appreciate your comments but I'm a realist. I doubt she will call, she broke up with me. If I don't expect anything then I won't be let down by anything. Like I say- I'm just having a tough time today thinking about things. 1
Happines Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 It's normal to have some very hard times...to b honest even healthy because you need to go to your grieving period to become better...do you have some good friends or relatives? If yes call them when u feel down speak to them about what happened and you will c it will get better. And people like that most likely never loved us and we were just a convenience or they fallen out of love before the break up so that's why they are all right and happy and already moved on... So honestly try your best to smile and even know it's hard now it will get better within the next few weeks
mightycpa Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 Hi All. Just a short post. Long story short but I've been NC now for 2 weeks today after my ex-gf told me she didn't want to be with me, it's not working out for her and she doesn't see a future for us. Harsh but that's just how it goes sometimes. Really surprised that she hasn't at least reached out to text or anything considering we spoke all the time. I've wanted to text her so many times but have always stood firm and NC. I don't really know what the point in this post is I just wanted to say how I felt... Still feel gutted she broke up with me and I do believe we will cross again. Hope is a horrible thing, but not being loved by someone you love is even worse. Onwards and up. Tom Amazing, isn't it? Sometimes, when you least expect it, they mean what they say. Hang in there. There will be nothing good waiting for you if you contact her. Spare yourself the agony of seeing it. 1
bigfred Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 His ex gf clearly stated that she did not want to be with him anymore. So why would you say that she will eventually call and to believe you that she will call. You're doing nothing more than giving him unsubstantiated false hopes. Very often, they do not ever call again because it's over. Just like they said it was. They always call back, curiosity kills tha cat, and when it hits her she will call, this is my past experiance, my ex has told me that she dont want to be with me all the time and she always comes back, and like an idiot that i am i take her back but this time its a wrap!!! so if she calls say hello to my ansermachine but i have blocked anyways!!
Tater Salad Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 Don't have false hope, but every one of my ex gfs from serious relationships have contacted me, years later, after I have moved on and on. If you were loving, caring, and a decent guy, they will contact you after they have experienced all of the other douche bags out there. But by that time, you are far removed emotionally from her. It feels good when they do contact you, but you don't care. No matter how bad the break up was, all of the negative aspects fade away, and the good stuff resurfaces in their eyes. If they never contact you again, that is because they have superb restraint and will power. Curiosity is always there. Again, do not have false hope. You are stronger than you know. Hang in there, it always gets better.
wizer Posted June 26, 2015 Posted June 26, 2015 They always call back, curiosity kills tha cat, and when it hits her she will call, this is my past experiance My apologies. I wasn't aware that your past experience with your exgf is the way it is with every breakup.
aloneinaz Posted June 26, 2015 Posted June 26, 2015 It is interesting how we all question "if they ever loved us" after they end the relationship, seemingly so coldly. My opinion is yes, of course they at one time loved us. But, the love faded or after the honeymoon period was over, they saw things in us that they felt they were not compatible with long term. Most of us older folks have ended relationships. We were in love with them at one time if it was a truly serious R/S. But, we came to the conclusion that the person or relationship wasn't what we wanted any longer so we checked out emotionally until finally pulling the plug and ending it. In most cases when relationships end, we always seem to move on to much better and more healthy ones. That's been the case for me.
Naturebox Posted June 26, 2015 Posted June 26, 2015 Don't forget to combine No Contact with actually doing new things and expanding your horizons.
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