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My GF of 6 YR, had a double life for 3.5 yr with best-friend (part 2)

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Hey guys,

 

 

Well, I guess now is the time to share the whole story. Two weeks ago I made the post “My girlfriend of 6 yr cheated for over a year with her best-friend”. You can find the post here “http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/533694-my-girlfriend-6-yr-cheated-over-year-her-best-friend”

 

 

As some might know she was outside the country this week. First to Spain and after that to Turkey. It was a working vacation as she is a travel agent. Well, I had a hard time reaching her in Spain and there I found out that she had been lying all along. So I noticed she was texting with this dude she has been ****ing with and I just decided to let it go. I blocked her and she didn’t contact me until Monday last week. She wrote me an e-mail with the biggest bull**** story there ever was. I knew immediately. At this point I knew she had been screwing me around. And I considered this as one as one of the most – if not the most- cruel experience.

 

Last Saturday I had – by far – the most cruel experience ever in my life. I looked at stuff in my computer and I found movies and pictures of them screwing each other. And I mean it was all there, hardcore stuff over the last years. So at that point I really snapped. I broke NC and started raging at her from Holland to turkey over texting. I sent pictures and made a sound copy of her moaning while he was pounding. She all got it there, but she didn’t respond while I saw she was looking. So I lost it and I started texting that dude. Like WTF!! Guys, I mean seriously… The moments of these pictures and movies they made in our bed… It is gut-wrenching. I know exactly where I was at that moment and I talked about her at that very moment. At this point I knew that she was ****ing him in our house, at his work, at the football club, hotels, in cars and **** know where else. Always unprotected and always as close as it could be.

 

 

 

No response everybody ignored me. So that Saturday I got drunk as hell… in the night I got this idea to take revenge. I decided to print some of the pictures with a big message: “Thank you for those 6 beautiful years where you shared our bed for 3 years with someone else. Good luck to my successor.” On Sunday morning I knew she would be flying back and there was little time for my plan. I took her last stuff (some bags and boxes) and put in my car. I went to her parents and put her stuff and her pictures of her ****ing him in my bedroom in front of her parents' house. I saw their neighbors making pictures and speaking shame about it. For those who want to see how this looked https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B6kYJkJXjdGleGZ5dk9DM0VfN2c/view?usp=sharing

 

 

I texted her on Sunday morning with the big news I was telling her parents. She knew that I would do it and I did. Her parents lost it and were devastated, especially her mom who was so ashamed for the neighbors. They called me all day and went to my house. Also her sister and all that stuff. They wanted to talk to me (probably scared as hell I’m going to release it on the internet). But I decided to ignore them all and didn't open the door. On the evening she texted me. Briefly saying that she didn’t have a warm welcome home and that everything was ****ed up. She told her parents the truth and she wanted to tell me also. I wasn’t so sure, but I thought it might be good for some closure.

 

 

 

So Monday night she finally came here. It was so insane to see her walk in.. her face was different. I couldn’t even recognize her anymore. Though I had seen her two weeks ago. She starts talking and the story was like: “Ok, I screwed up big time and I really flashed you. I started texting in 2011, and in the beginning of 2012 I started seeing him. I always let you know I was running, but I actually went to his house a couple of streets further.” At this point I was completely losing it. Because at that point I was having the most weak time out of our relationship. She abandoned me already by then and she never told. I had some things to deal with which I eventually did. But she just cut me off there.

 

 

She goes further by saying that she has always done since then. One time it stopped for a half year when the guy she was ****ing with was starting a relationship with someone else. After that they did it always for 3.5 years. The remarkable thing is that I already knew she was screwing me around by then. Her shirt was never sweaty and she was so tense when she came back after running. Not something you would expect. So I followed her once, and to that house… But I was too goddamn scared to walk towards the house. Just as I was too scared to break into her phone so I could see all the evidence.

 

 

 

Her final explanation was like this: “Sweety, I just had him in the ****ing and you for everything else. I just ****ed you enough to keep you satisfied, but I really didn’t want to **** you at all. I just wanted him. To be really honest. I would have hoped that it would be always like this. You for this stuff and him for that.” On the moment she told me: "I want him and not you" I just broke. It was that I saw her for the first and last time. And I was like OMFG how could you do this to someone you love? I mean all the moments when she was gone, she was with him. And that guy is less accomplished as I am and has a small dick as well! She lied about so many things that my whole life is disturbed now. I don’t know who I am, she is what I resulted in me being with her…

It was all fake and I feel like I just throw 6 years of my life away. How can a woman do something like this? I really don’t know how to thrust anybody ever again and how I am going forward with my life.

 

+ 1 little thing.. Well not so little. But her parents knew she had been ****ing him in 2012. That's why they wanted her to leave me and why I got eventually isolated because I thought they didn't like me.

 

It’s just 3.5 years is to much. There happened to much and she invested so much energy in her lie and keeping it in live. It’s just so screwed up that I’m wrenched at this moment.:(

 

Now I know she is going to stay with him and well **** it as she have been for the last 3.5 years. But the question that comes up is if she will have any form of remorse in the future. Like I said, she liked the feeling of getting caught and she liked the sex. But he is less acomplished and she really seemed to like to have a smart boyfriend. However, she used me to the maximum of her knowledge and keep the game a life. I killed her fake life and played her out totally. But will she regret really and cry to my feet one day?

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jen1447 Established Member

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Not likely. Especially not now after all that.

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Bluimes New Member

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Not likely. Especially not now after all that.

 

Are you saying they did it always? Because I get some nasty itchy feeling that this is indeed the case...

 

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Nevermind. I see what you are saying

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Some people do these kind of things.

 

What a mess.

Chi townD Established Member

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Her final explanation was like this: “Sweety, I just had him in the ****ing and you for everything else. I just ****ed you enough to keep you satisfied, but I really didn’t want to **** you at all. I just wanted him. To be really honest. I would have hoped that it would be always like this. You for this stuff and him for that.” On the moment she told me: "I want him and not you"

 

 

 

 

Dude, she said all of that stuff just to hurt you. I mean, you blasted her pretty publicly. Her only gameplan was to go over there and try to hurt you while making it seem that what you did didn't affect her. But, here's the rub. This was the first time she was probably honest with you and didn't realize she was doing it.

 

 

She had the best of both worlds. You were the safety and security of the relationship and you filled her emotional needs while she had this other asshat filling her physical needs. So, you're butthurt that she's going with this guy? WHY?!?!? Here's the rub, SHE DOESN'T HAVE TOO MANY CHOICES!! She can't have you now, so where else is she going to go?

 

 

Will she regret what she's done? Probably. But, you're never going to know. You used to take care of things. You used to take care of her. The only thing this other guy is good for is a roll in the hay. You're finishing up school. You have direction in life and (if you listen to my advise in your last thread) she's going to hear that you're leading an adventurous life. Taking trips, going out and doing things, becoming involved in your community. Making yourself out to be a fun guy to be around. And maybe, she might wake up and realize what she threw away. But her pride will stop her from saying anything to you.

 

 

So, it's time to put this in your rear view mirror and move on. Change the locks on your place. GET A NEW BED!! And start making positive changes to your life.

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Whether she comes "crying to your feet" or not, what's the point? Do you want her back? She was completely honest with you and told you how she feels - she wants him for the sex and you for everything else. What self-respecting man (or women if the tide was turned) would put up with that? As painful as it is, moving forward seems like the best thing you can do. Have you considered making contact with a counselor to help you through the grieving process? My thoughts and prayers are with you.

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This is a sh*t situation and I feel for you, but these dramatic acts of revenge just aren't going to help anything. It's making you look unstable.

 

Putting pornographic pictures of your ex on her parent's lawn isn't cool at all. Those shouldn't be in public for neighbors to see, it's none of their business, and there's always the risk that kids could see it. Beyond that, no parents should have to see pictures of their naked daughter f*cking. They love her, she's their daughter... they're probably going to be more mad at YOU than her in that situation.

 

These problems are between you and your ex. It's understandable that you're furious at her, but you don't have to make a big public circus out of it. Take the higher road.

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But will she regret really and cry to my feet one day?
**** no. You destroyed any chance of remorse with your revenge. I hope you enjoyed it, because that is all the satisfaction you'll ever get from this situation.
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