nomoreofthat Posted April 30, 2005 Posted April 30, 2005 its been like a month now since this guy i was dating dumped me. we dated a couple years ago briefly, were friends since then, then dated for like a month and a half this time. this second time around, i was really into him, and he seemd to be really into me. then it ended abruptly, basically like he didnt know if we were going anywhere, didnt want to hurt me down the road, really liked me and was attracted to me, didnt want a relationship, yada yada, still wants to be friends and hang out. well hes a nice guy and i figured the whole friend thing was a nice let-down. didnt expect much from it. last weekend i saw him out, and i tried to avoid him just cause i felt weird. i knew he was in this place when i walked in and i was sitting in another section. i dont like hate him but i felt too weird just walking up to him and acting like everythings cool. my friend was over there talking to him, and i overheard him ask who she was with and she said me. after that apparently he kept peering over into my room looking for me, my other friend told me this as my back was facing him. then i was getting up to do something and when i was walking back, he was staring right at me and giving me this sorta sad look that i dont know how to describe. it was weird. i caught it, but i wasnt looking back long enough to feel obligated to say something and pretended i didnt see it. then when i was leaving his friend waved bye to me and i waved back. then he (the guy who dumped me) gave me this weak sorta "idont know if you want to wave back at me" wave, but i waved back. then last night i saw him again, tried to avoid him and felt weird and was sitting by myself. he walked right up to me and said hi. then instantly said that he might be able to get me a job at his work (i had recently been talking about looking for a new job). then he asked how i was, about school and stuff. it wasnt weird at all. he just talked talked talked like he normally does about everything. we shared drinks throughout the night. he invited me to a party of his. at one point one of my friends said something about something stupid i did involving my crush on him a couple years ago, and i got kinda embarrassed and he was just sorta like "thats cute" and put his arm around me. i dont really know what im asking here. any interpretations really? i really am pretty relieved that we're cool now.
ConfusedInOC Posted April 30, 2005 Posted April 30, 2005 Originally posted by nomoreofthat its been like a month now since this guy i was dating dumped me. we dated a couple years ago briefly, were friends since then, then dated for like a month and a half this time. this second time around, i was really into him, and he seemd to be really into me. then it ended abruptly, basically like he didnt know if we were going anywhere, didnt want to hurt me down the road, really liked me and was attracted to me, didnt want a relationship, yada yada, still wants to be friends and hang out. well hes a nice guy and i figured the whole friend thing was a nice let-down. didnt expect much from it. last weekend i saw him out, and i tried to avoid him just cause i felt weird. i knew he was in this place when i walked in and i was sitting in another section. i dont like hate him but i felt too weird just walking up to him and acting like everythings cool. my friend was over there talking to him, and i overheard him ask who she was with and she said me. after that apparently he kept peering over into my room looking for me, my other friend told me this as my back was facing him. then i was getting up to do something and when i was walking back, he was staring right at me and giving me this sorta sad look that i dont know how to describe. it was weird. i caught it, but i wasnt looking back long enough to feel obligated to say something and pretended i didnt see it. then when i was leaving his friend waved bye to me and i waved back. then he (the guy who dumped me) gave me this weak sorta "idont know if you want to wave back at me" wave, but i waved back. then last night i saw him again, tried to avoid him and felt weird and was sitting by myself. he walked right up to me and said hi. then instantly said that he might be able to get me a job at his work (i had recently been talking about looking for a new job). then he asked how i was, about school and stuff. it wasnt weird at all. he just talked talked talked like he normally does about everything. we shared drinks throughout the night. he invited me to a party of his. at one point one of my friends said something about something stupid i did involving my crush on him a couple years ago, and i got kinda embarrassed and he was just sorta like "thats cute" and put his arm around me. i dont really know what im asking here. any interpretations really? i really am pretty relieved that we're cool now. Uhhh, sounds pretty normal to me. Two young folks who don't know what they want. When I was your age, I was the same way. I said this in another thread, I'll say it again: TALK TO HIM. Communiation is the key. Tell him what you want. Ask him what wants. Figure out if your plans jive and go from there. Relationships are so much easier when you talk to each other.
Peb-peb Posted May 1, 2005 Posted May 1, 2005 He's told you what he wants. He's not interested in more than just being your friend. The question for you is whether you can be his friend at this point. If you can without it being too hurtful or difficult for you, then be friends. But it looks like you still have some issues with it.
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