Will My Boyfriend Feel Ego-Bruised When I Climax From Porn But Not From Him?

[single_beauty95]

I'm a female, 21, and I'm struggling to be able to :mad:have an orgasm without the use of porn, this means that when I'm with my partner I can never orgasm with him because I can't get into the same frame of mind you get with porn.

 

None of my partners have EVER witnessed me orgasm. Even though I have masturbated perfectly by myself from a very young age. He is special. I would really like to show him this part of me.

 

I enjoy our foreplay, he is very good at sensually pleasing me and making me squirm etc, yet I never reach full arousal enough to climax.

 

I've tried letting him sit quietly next to me as I do my thing alone... Still nothing. It feels I just need porn.

 

I want to bring it into our bedroom and have us both enjoy it together.

 

Will he be upset when he realizes that porn turns me on physically more than him? Even if that is not the realistic case?

 

How would you feel? Should I do it?

[jen1447]

Only one way to find out. Your needs are your needs, so if he's not understanding, that may be a pointer he's not the guy for you. btw if you can't orgasm with him, that often (not always) indicates some sort of lack of necessary comfort level with your partner. Do you feel perfectly at ease around him?

[gaius]

Is he disgusting physically or something? You really need to just stop with porn altogether and take the time to attune yourself to him if you're having such a hard time. Or dump him if he's so gross you can't.

 

There's just no guy with any self respect that's gonna put up with you not being able to get off without looking at some guy that isn't him.

[Gaeta]

You've conditioned yourself to porn I strongly suggest you stop this. More you'll use it harder it will be to undo. It's going to take a while before it works. It's often something people do without realizing it, same with vibrators and masturbation. You can easily condition yourself to these and then it becomes a crutch in your sex life. If I were you I would explain my new boyfriend it's a challenge to orgasm, it won't work every time and he'll need patience. Don't tell him you need port, and put down that porn. Honestly hon, if a man told me he needs porn to orgasm it would turn me off a great deal. Not because he can't orgasm with me only but because that means we'll need a device in bed, every time, for him to access that porn.

[Yookie]

Old habits are hard to break but not impossible. If you want to enjoy sex with a man you will have to stop using porn and stop masterbating. Let yourself get super horny then have encounters with men to retrain your ability to respond to a different type of stimulus. Or you could watch porn (without masterbating) before you get with your man and use the images in your head to bring you over the top.