Jord11 Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 I started seeing this girl we get along great but my past relationships failed because I was to clingy always wanted to talk and be with them now I've learnt from it and don't want to ruin it im trying not to text all day but what advice can I have not to become too attached and clingy I want to try really hard for this one any advice would be great thanks
casey.lives Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 REMEMBER: misunderstandings ruin the loooove feelings.. so make it a priority to try and be understanding/be REASONable ..
Author Jord11 Posted June 24, 2015 Author Posted June 24, 2015 REMEMBER: misunderstandings ruin the loooove feelings.. so make it a priority to try and be understanding/be REASONable .. Can you explain what you mean by that
fitnessfan365 Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 The best way to avoid being clingy is to focus on planning dates, and leave most of the text initiating to her. I've found that when a woman is really into me, she'll reach out more so I'll plan more dates with her. However, I do like to initiate sometimes though. For example, I'll always call a woman the day after a date. In my experience, women really appreciate this. Also, I like to initiate a text the day before a date and exchange a few with her. It's good to touch base and it gets her excited. But in general though, if you're focusing on date planning and being consistent with your actions, a woman will usually handle most of the texting in between dates in my experience.
d0nnivain Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 Place some artificial limits on yourself. Keep phone calls around 15 minutes every other day at the most. I don't know how that translates to texts but I'd refrain from more then 3-4 message exchange & I'd have some time each week with no contact. Give her the chance to come to you. Don't mention feelings stronger than like early on. Do not stalk her social media Limit yourself to one form of contact per day, less if possible. 3
fitnessfan365 Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 (edited) Place some artificial limits on yourself. Keep phone calls around 15 minutes every other day at the most. I don't know how that translates to texts but I'd refrain from more then 3-4 message exchange & I'd have some time each week with no contact. Give her the chance to come to you. Don't mention feelings stronger than like early on. Do not stalk her social media Limit yourself to one form of contact per day, less if possible. Very good advice! I also want to add that there is no hard set rule that you have to text with a woman all day long. So if a woman does text you, exchange 2-3 tops with her spread out over the day. Then say you have to run but you'll see her soon. If she texts you again later that night, don't respond to her until the next day. Even if you have nothing going on in your life, you want to have the appearance that you do. When you text/call with a woman all day every day, it communicates that you have nothing else going on but her. I know it's tempting when she reaches out to engage in these marathons. But if you're telling her everything going on in your life, she'll have no reason to get together with you..LOL Remember, you want to be in a relationship with her, not your phone. Edited June 24, 2015 by fitnessfan365 2
TheBathWater Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 I started seeing this girl we get along great but my past relationships failed because I was to clingy always wanted to talk and be with them now I've learnt from it and don't want to ruin it im trying not to text all day but what advice can I have not to become too attached and clingy I want to try really hard for this one any advice would be great thanks Oh, my brother. How I understand thou. The advice above about limiting your texts and spreading them out, as well as leaving most of the initiating to her, sounds good to me. I sense for you that deeper than knowing what to do though is wondering how to emotionally handle the clingy and needy instincts, especially during the early stages. I think you're going to feel these feelings no matter what, but as you know, feelings come and pass eventually. See if when you are feeling clingy and at risk you can tell yourself "this feeling shall pass" and breathe into it. It might take an hour, or days, but it will pass. As the relationship matures, it is fine to make more of your needs transparent, but still be careful. I have a feeling you know what to do now based on past experience. Good luck, and let us know how it goes.
Versacehottie Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 The best way to avoid being clingy is to focus on planning dates, and leave most of the text initiating to her. I've found that when a woman is really into me, she'll reach out more so I'll plan more dates with her. However, I do like to initiate sometimes though. For example, I'll always call a woman the day after a date. In my experience, women really appreciate this. Also, I like to initiate a text the day before a date and exchange a few with her. It's good to touch base and it gets her excited. But in general though, if you're focusing on date planning and being consistent with your actions, a woman will usually handle most of the texting in between dates in my experience. i agree with this mostly. If you've got a date planned already, the girl can relax and look forward to the date and same with you. It's something definite and builds anticipation. A few texts in between (inside jokes, things you tht she would enjoy or sharing a bit of your life with her). Yours don't have to be wordy, usually the girl will do that part and she will ask questions once you give her a little bit and she will keep banter going typically. I'm a big fan of not over texted or over calling (long ones). Then on date it can be anti-climatic. Or anything routine (what are dreaded good morning and good night texts b.s. all about???--that sounds boring A.F!!!) I think anything spontaneous, natural and not by routine adds spark. good luck
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