AriesGirl803 Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 I'm gonna try to condense this as much as I can. For your sakes and mine, as I'm typing this out on my cell phone. Some details have been slightly changed for anonymity purposes. Occasionally I go out to eat at this local restaurant and once I had hit it off with a server there and thought he was cute, but nothing happened and I didn't go back for a little while (couple months). Recently I did go back and was just like man he is soooo cute I need to make an appearance more often and see if I can get things going. Went with my girl friend this weekend, who has met him before at the restaurant and knows I have a crush on him.. Kinda why we went aside from good food lol. Basically she was acting off the wall just hyper and silly and as she was drinking alcohol it got worse. She was dominating the conversation with him, goofing off, taking pics with him, even found him and added him on social media while we were there. I don't think this was done intentionally she really loves meeting new people and getting to know them, but probably not great behavior for a wing woman.. She was in a really weird/manic mood in general. So things didn't start out well, then she told another patron (who is a regular at the restaurant I guess and kinda knows the server) that I had a crush on our server. Note that we were eating at a bar/community table type of area. And when my friend went to the bathroom the patron basically announced to me (literally right in front of the server) that knows I have a crush on him. Yeah.... Like were in f**king preschool or something. He continued to make little comments to me loud enough for the server to hear and comments directly to the server. He claims he was "helping" me and actually good friends with the server-- neither of which I believe. I was a little buzzed and just played it off and played it cool. I did tell the patron that I did not appreciate it at all and it makes me look desperate and just not cute. I pulled out my credit card hoping the server would bring me my check, he ignored it and eventually offered me another drink to which I declined since I had to drive home and didn't want to be embarassed by this patron anymore. My friend ended up arguing with him (the patron)and we finally got the check and left. Looking back I feel like it's pretty cringe-worthy. I've talked to a couple friends and what I've gotten is that I need new friends and just forget it and move on. I had originally decided on my own as well that I probably shouldn't go into that restaurant anymore. But I'm kinda bummed over the situation, the server seems like a nice genuine guy... Loveshack, do you think there's any way to salvage this situation or should I accept it and move along? I'm of a strong mindset that guys should pursue in the beginning and I feel like that probably made me look really bad..
d0nnivain Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 Don't go back there with your friend ever. You do go back at a slow time to apologize to him. Just say sorry & you hope you two didn't get him in trouble. Hopefully you left him a decent tip
Author AriesGirl803 Posted June 23, 2015 Author Posted June 23, 2015 Thank you! I'd be willing to do that after some time passes... And I'm a server myself so I always tip well
d0nnivain Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 Thank you! I'd be willing to do that after some time passes... And I'm a server myself so I always tip well No go back soon. If you wait by the time you get around to apologizing he may have forgotten all about it so you dredging it up will be worse.
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