jen1447 Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 She's taking sex out of the equation by never wanting to be alone with him. Seems like an unnecessary and convoluted and labor intensive way to achieve that. Why not just blow him off like everybody else does?
autumnnight Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 23 is a little old to have regular boyfriend get togethers with the family. Special occasions and events, sure, but every single time they hang out? Even if it was every other time, or every third time, that's still too much family when it should just be the two of them. It depends. If she grew up in one of those under the thumb families then her 23 is like most people's 16. And that in itself can be a problem.
fitnessfan365 Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 Seems like an unnecessary and convoluted and labor intensive way to achieve that. Why not just blow him off like everybody else does? Well he's not a guy she's casually dating. They've been together for three months and she claims to love him. I'm guessing she is still emotionally attached. But her sexual attraction seems to be fading, Makes sense because instead of him acting like her lover, he's acting like her overly nice super pleasing best friend.
Gaeta Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 The answer is with the parents and their expectations. FF: You are thinking of her as a 40 yo woman with a game. She's not. she is a young inexperienced woman who's been dating for only 3 months. OP: I would like to know her dating history?
Gaeta Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 They've been together for three months and she claims to love him. That should tell you how inexperienced she is and still a teen at heart.
jen1447 Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 Well he's not a guy she's casually dating. They've been together for three months and she claims to love him. I'm guessing she is still emotionally attached. But her sexual attraction seems to be fading, Makes sense because instead of him acting like her lover, he's acting like her overly nice super pleasing best friend. But still why drag him over to her parents' at every opportunity? Honest questions btw.
fitnessfan365 Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 But still why drag him over to her parents' at every opportunity? Honest questions btw. Maybe it's her passive aggressive way of getting him to break up with her. From the sound of it, it's working because the OP says he doesn't see any other option aside from doing just that..LOL
jen1447 Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 The ultimate passive aggressive is the tried and true blowoff. So much easier.
Rafaely Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 Dude I hate saying this but I had the exact same thing. No interest in sex, barely coming over and crying when confronted, not wanna lose you etc. Afraid of you breaking up with her. Turned out months later she was cheating on me at the time. Goodluck with this man.
fitnessfan365 Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 The ultimate passive aggressive is the tried and true blowoff. So much easier. Yeah but it's different when it's three months and she's said 'I love you" multiple times. This way she gets to remain "innocent" and make him do the dirty work. I mean if she keeps taking sex out of the equation and wanting chaperoned hang outs with her folks on a regular basis, it will do the trick.
jen1447 Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 Why would anybody put that much work into it tho? And ppl back out of "I love you" w/out s much as an explanation or apology all the time.
fitnessfan365 Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 Why would anybody put that much work into it tho? And ppl back out of "I love you" w/out s much as an explanation or apology all the time. Well maybe you could take a guess as to what's going through her mind then. I mean obviously there has to be a reason why she no longer wants to be alone with him and pushes for group hang outs with the folks all the time. Like I said before, I think she is still emotionally attached and still likes his company on a basic level. She just doesn't want to have sex with him anymore.
jen1447 Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 Well maybe you could take a guess as to what's going through her mind then. I mean obviously there has to be a reason why she no longer wants to be alone with him and pushes for group hang outs with the folks all the time. I really don't have a clue. Pretty bizarre imo.
Gaeta Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 Well maybe you could take a guess as to what's going through her mind then.. Read post 16 & 24.
fitnessfan365 Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 Read post 16 & 24. That could be true. However, did you read his other thread awhile back? She started doing nice things and buying him stuff way less often and she stopped contacting him as much. So then he started over compensating by doing too many nice things, buying her stuff all the time, and over pursuing her. It went from mutual interest to him being way more invested than she is. So couldn't his change in behavior to try and force things result in her losing attraction?
Gaeta Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 That could be true. However, did you read his other thread awhile back? She started doing nice things and buying him stuff way less often and she stopped contacting him as much. So then he started over compensating by doing too many nice things, buying her stuff all the time, and over pursuing her. It went from mutual interest to him being way more invested than she is. So couldn't his change in behavior to try and force things result in her losing attraction? To me, if she was losing interest, she wouldn't bother inviting him over to hang out at her parents, she would find excuses and skip seeing him.
Krieger Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 I would stop going over to her house and say you going to go out with friends .
Author Mjm1014 Posted June 25, 2015 Author Posted June 25, 2015 Thanks for the responses everyone! She came over last night, and she knew I was concerned and upset and we had a long talk about things. She got a little emotional and said it sucks that she lives at home and it makes it difficult, but she wouldn't get into it. Deep down I do think there is something on her mind, but I'm done guessing...just going to see what happens the next week or two. Very bizarre lol... She did want to talk about the future though and at the end of the night (we did have sex) we were laying there and she said she wished she could live with me and she can't wait for that day. Taking that with a grain of salt thoufh haha
Gaeta Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 Thanks for the responses everyone! She came over last night, and she knew I was concerned and upset and we had a long talk about things. She got a little emotional and said it sucks that she lives at home and it makes it difficult, but she wouldn't get into it. Deep down I do think there is something on her mind, but I'm done guessing...just going to see what happens the next week or two. Very bizarre lol... She did want to talk about the future though and at the end of the night (we did have sex) we were laying there and she said she wished she could live with me and she can't wait for that day. Taking that with a grain of salt thoufh haha Why don't you ask her if she has pressure from her parents to spend more time there?
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