td2606 Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 Im 19 and have no intrest in guys my own age. I only like guys that are 30 years plus older than me. Is it wrong? 1
central Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 It's not wrong, just a little unusual. Is there something that accounts for your preference? One of my best friends married a man 30 years older when she was about your age. They had a good marriage until he died of surgical complications after 10 years. She still prefers men 20 to 30 years older than her. She is a very normal and intelligent person in every way other than this preference, and there are no issues of abuse or other trauma in her past, which many people seem to think is a "cause" for such preferences. I am primarily attracted to brunettes. Am I wrong? LOL 1
Krieger Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 Im 19 and have no intrest in guys my own age. I only like guys that are 30 years plus older than me. Is it wrong? Do you have daddy issues or just want to date someone old enough to be your dad . Good luck with that if I was that old and had a daughter that age there is no way in hell I sleep with a 19 year old it creepy IMO. Also any guy with class will not touch someone that young. 2
smackie9 Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 You are a poor little girl in a big big world....You have a security fetish.... the need to feel protected, like a father would, someone that will lead you, take care of you. Was this type of security lacking in your childhood by any chance? 2
Author td2606 Posted June 23, 2015 Author Posted June 23, 2015 Yeh have had messed up childhood. Am with some one older now but dont have any real feelings for them anymore. Am now attracted to one of his friends and it is starting to mess my head up again. I thought I was getting my life sorted now it just feels upside down. 1
Gaeta Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 About you take a little time off from men? You are 19 years old don't you have bigger cats to whip? like college, friends, family, running an iron-man, visiting bora-bora, jumping off a plane, dancing all night long !! 3
Satu Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 It's not wrong, but depending on what you want in a relationship, it might be hard to make it work.
alphamale Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 sooo, when you are 40 you will be into 70 yr old men? i doubt it 1
Redhead14 Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 Im 19 and have no intrest in guys my own age. I only like guys that are 30 years plus older than me. Is it wrong? No, not necessarily wrong, but you might want to delve some into WHY you only like older men.
Gary S Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 I have seen this before.... while it may not be average, some women are more attracted to men who have character lines.
empresario Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 Even dating girls 6-7 years younger than me at 28...there is always an underlying issue as to why they like an age gap. I am learning that the mega-ultra-contra-hardmode way. As others are saying. Seek help. Understand yourself before you try to build a life with someone else.
Krieger Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 Hey OP I am 31 and I would have no issue dating a girl 10 years younger . If Paul Walker can do it why can't I LOL. OP go get some therapy and try to find out what really going on.
BikerAccnt Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 I have seen this before.... while it may not be average, some women are more attracted to men who have character lines. Is that what these creases on my face are? 1
Ninjainpajamas Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 Whatever the reason is, you're going to make a lot of older guys happy. 4
Clarence_Boddicker Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 No, but most likely you're going to break some hearts (if you get into real relationships) until you most likely end up with someone close to your age. In 10+ years those immature 18 yo guys are most likely gonna look very attractive to you, especially if your DILFs aren't exactly what you want & need. Be prepared for a lot of looks in public with an older guy by your side. My ex was 25 years younger & we got a lot of looks even though I look at least 10 years younger than my real age. The attention from strangers didn't affect me at all, but probably got to her after awhile.
still_an_Angel Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 Nothing wrong with it if that is your preference. As with all relationships, different dynamics, it might work, it might not. Its just that you and your potential partner might be at different stages in your lives and sometimes that becomes an issue. You've got a lot to consider on this, like health, finances, maybe he's got kids already, etc. But I can't talk, my partner was already in university when I was born! 1
Krieger Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 Don't know why so many people are giving the OP a hard time about this. It's ok for some ladies to have an obvious preference for players, douchebags, tall guys, fit guys, or whatever else, but the OP is the one that needs therapy? When I was 34, I went out with a 21 year old, and had a 20 year old sending me naked pics and trying to hook up. Big deal. Well if the older guy has a daughter her age and is sleeping with the OP it says a lot about the guy. I once had the opportunity to sleep with an much older woman but she asked me my age and she said NO I have a son close to that age it would be wrong she could not to it.
smackie9 Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 Don't know why so many people are giving the OP a hard time about this. It's ok for some ladies to have an obvious preference for players, douchebags, tall guys, fit guys, or whatever else, but the OP is the one that needs therapy? When I was 34, I went out with a 21 year old, and had a 20 year old sending me naked pics and trying to hook up. Big deal. Not 30 years old, she is saying 30 years plus older. 10, 14 years, apples to oranges. 1
brandonstellar Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 I don't think it's too unusual, as I've seen it time and time again. You might want to ask yourself why you are attracted to older men, though. As others in this thread have said, security issues, bad childhood, daddy issues, etc.
impatiently_patient Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 Hey OP I am 31 and I would have no issue dating a girl 10 years younger . If Paul Walker can do it why can't I LOL. Actually, Paul Walker can't.
impatiently_patient Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 You think maybe you have daddy issues? My last girlfriend was 23, while I was 37. She didn't have any daddy issues whatsoever. Basically, she found most guys around her age to be douchenozzles. I won't even assume it was an age thing (I wasn't a D-bag when I was 23), it could just be Millennials.
Krieger Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 (edited) Actually, Paul Walker can't. true he is dead but Jasmine began dating Paul when she was just 16-years-old — he was 33 at the time. He got away with it because he had money IMO lets see a guy with no money try that. Edited June 24, 2015 by Krieger
loveweary11 Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 My last girlfriend was 23, while I was 37. She didn't have any daddy issues whatsoever. Basically, she found most guys around her age to be douchenozzles. I won't even assume it was an age thing (I wasn't a D-bag when I was 23), it could just be Millennials. I think this is it. A generational thing. Millennials are sooo accepting of others. Several of them don't consider seeing us older guys a big deal. I see millennials exclusively these days and they are just wonderful people, through and through. Some cross section of them just seems to gravitate to being with older men/women. They don't have all the hang ups a lot of older people have about it. I'm out with girls in their early 20's and never get stares. Most people find it to be no big deal in real life. Only on here does it become an issue for some reason. I mean millennials are so great, even the guys accept me.
TunaCat Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 So back about 5 years ago, my uncle who was in his mid 40's started seeing a girl who was BARELY legal (I mean, she had only been 18 for like 6 months before they met) and he dated her for I think 6 months. I tried to keep my mouth shut for as long as possible, but I finally said "You're dating a girl who is younger than your NIECE" (me) I was 25 at the time. That snapped him out of it REALLY quickly. This girl had a lot of issues. History of parental abuse & then abandonment etc.
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