lollipopspot Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 He doesn't have the decency to even pretend he cares for you. He doesn't have to pretend, she fabricates it in her own mind. A lot of girls do this. OP, you have to look at his ACTIONS. That's all that matters. He may even try to win you back, if you go no contact, but remember this history, because this is reality, not what's in your mind or some nice words that he may give you in the future. 1
Gaeta Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 No. I'm not his maid, was just trying to do a favor for a "friend" but I guess not. Now that im thinking about it he was all into everything else but me after sex answering "buisness" calls. He just started getting dressed. I just feel confused & hurt. I always tell him how much I care about him, but I guess it just doesn't matter to him. I mentioned it before & said "i dont think you care about me sometimes" and he said, that's just what im telling myself, but he does. Why exactly do you call him a friend? He doesn't seem to fill any of the friend characteristic.
Redhead14 Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 No. I'm not his maid, was just trying to do a favor for a "friend" but I guess not. Now that im thinking about it he was all into everything else but me after sex answering "buisness" calls. He just started getting dressed. I just feel confused & hurt. I always tell him how much I care about him, but I guess it just doesn't matter to him. I mentioned it before & said "i dont think you care about me sometimes" and he said, that's just what im telling myself, but he does. that's just what im telling myself, but he does -- that is a deflection of the issue on his part. He doesn't care about you as a person. You are a sex object and that's less than an FWB, that's a just plain F**k buddy. If that's not what you really want, move on. Even when you are in an FWB scenario, both parties should be treating each other with respect at least. But, in order for the scenario to work "effectively" there should be absolutely no expectations beyond the bare minimum of friendship. That means no sharing of deep personal information, no seeking comfort or support or validation of any kind. You can and should be friendly to one another, that's it. And, even in an FWB situation, they shouldn't be calling you at the last minute, having you run over there to have sex and then out the door. It might go that way anyway, but at least schedule it a day in advance, that's just being respectful of each other's time. Bottomline, this guy is a bad FWB. He can't even do that right. 1
lollipopspot Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 Realize too, OP, that he's more than likely been joking with his buddies about banging some chick who for whatever reason he doesn't see as girlfriend material - his actions show that he doesn't like you, and he doesn't respect you. This is harsh, but I really want you to get what's happening here. 1
Ruby Slippers Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 He's a player. He's not the relationship type, so don't bother trying to understand or change him, it's not in his nature. True. Some men are players who just want something shallow; others are relationship guys who want love and the whole enchilada. I've never wasted my time with the first type, and I wouldn't suggest any woman get involved with them unless she's the same type and just wants something shallow.
Author LoveOverAll Posted June 23, 2015 Author Posted June 23, 2015 He doesn't have to pretend, she fabricates it in her own mind. A lot of girls do this. OP, you have to look at his ACTIONS. That's all that matters. He may even try to win you back, if you go no contact, but remember this history, because this is reality, not what's in your mind or some nice words that he may give you in the future. Yup. Im sure he'll text me "hey" or "hi" tmrw too. That's all I got from him all day. Whoohoo what an effort! (Sarcasm) thank God for this forum & all of you people nice honest, blunt but TRUTHFUL responses. Anytime he tries to sneak back in I'm going to refer back to this post to remind me of who he REALLY is. It's clear to me now that he DOESN'T like me now & NEVER did. Wow! 1
toscaroscura Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 Yup. Im sure he'll text me "hey" or "hi" tmrw too. That's all I got from him all day. Whoohoo what an effort! (Sarcasm) thank God for this forum & all of you people nice honest, blunt but TRUTHFUL responses. Anytime he tries to sneak back in I'm going to refer back to this post to remind me of who he REALLY is. It's clear to me now that he DOESN'T like me now & NEVER did. Wow! Block his number and all social media. Don't even give that "hey" a chance to worm its way back into your heart.
fitnessfan365 Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 That sucks OP. I'd personally never bum rush a woman like that and kick her out right after. I mean he basically treated you like a hooker. My motto is to be a gentleman, let her relax a bit, build the tension with some conversation and foreplay, etc.. Seduction is a lost art these days. Don't get me wrong. I'm all for getting rough and aggressive in the bedroom. But not literally the second she walks into my place. LOL
Author LoveOverAll Posted June 24, 2015 Author Posted June 24, 2015 That sucks OP. I'd personally never bum rush a woman like that and kick her out right after. I mean he basically treated you like a hooker. My motto is to be a gentleman, let her relax a bit, build the tension with some conversation and foreplay, etc.. Seduction is a lost art these days. Don't get me wrong. I'm all for getting rough and aggressive in the bedroom. But not literally the second she walks into my place. LOL Sadly I believe that's how he views me. Never again will I ever put myself in a situation like that. I'm glad you're the opposite of him
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