LoveOverAll Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 Yesterday my guy friend texted me early in the morning being really nice, he wanted to see me I agreed because it's been a little while since we last seen each other. I got to his house and was actually looking forward to just catching up talking and hanging out. Well he couldn't keep his hands off of me. From the door he was kissing all over me etc (man being a man I guess) at first I resisted and he stopppef and said "well how much do you miss me baby"? I said I really do miss you a lot & then he pulled out a condom and said "well, show me". I tried to laugh it off, but next thing I knew he pulled down his pants, put the condom on and asked me can he do my "pretty ass and pu$$y". I was caught in the moment and went with the flow. After sex, he seemed rushy and said he already had plans to go somewhere & so he had to leave. I said ok got cleaned up & dressed amd we both left. Later on in the evening, I tried calling & texting him to tell him something important to me, but got no answer. Now today he texted me hi like nothing never happened so I called him right away, but got no answer which I thought was strange because he had just texted me. Idk if I made him feel like I was being clingy or what but this is not out first time having sex & this seems to be his norm after sex. Seeming distant, why? He asked me to come over & I did so idk what I could've done wrong. Please I've been thinking about this all day & night.
Lansing Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 This sounds like some guy's fantasy written out in this post. You guys were "friends" or "friends with benefits" before?? Had he even kissed you before? Seems odd that a guy would do this and that you would just "go with the flow" if there is no history there. 1
MidwestUSA Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 He got exactly what he was looking for. And he'll be distant until he wants it again. Pretty simple. 4
Author LoveOverAll Posted June 23, 2015 Author Posted June 23, 2015 This sounds like some guy's fantasy written out in this post. You guys were "friends" or "friends with benefits" before?? Had he even kissed you before? Seems odd that a guy would do this and that you would just "go with the flow" if there is no history there. No. I mentioned we had sex before & this is how he acts after. I didnt ask to see him, he asked me.
Redhead14 Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 Yesterday my guy friend texted me early in the morning being really nice, he wanted to see me I agreed because it's been a little while since we last seen each other. I got to his house and was actually looking forward to just catching up talking and hanging out. Well he couldn't keep his hands off of me. From the door he was kissing all over me etc (man being a man I guess) at first I resisted and he stopppef and said "well how much do you miss me baby"? I said I really do miss you a lot & then he pulled out a condom and said "well, show me". I tried to laugh it off, but next thing I knew he pulled down his pants, put the condom on and asked me can he do my "pretty ass and pu$$y". I was caught in the moment and went with the flow. After sex, he seemed rushy and said he already had plans to go somewhere & so he had to leave. I said ok got cleaned up & dressed amd we both left. Later on in the evening, I tried calling & texting him to tell him something important to me, but got no answer. Now today he texted me hi like nothing never happened so I called him right away, but got no answer which I thought was strange because he had just texted me. Idk if I made him feel like I was being clingy or what but this is not out first time having sex & this seems to be his norm after sex. Seeming distant, why? He asked me to come over & I did so idk what I could've done wrong. Please I've been thinking about this all day & night. Oh my goodness! He got what he wanted and used you for sex. Actually, you allowed yourself to be used. This was a classic hit and run. He texted you and you ran right over there, he mauled you, talked to you like you were a piece of meat and now he's just throwing breadcrumbs at you with texts and flaky communication to keep you on the string until the next time he gets really horny. How old are you and how long have you been seeing him? What is your dating history with him? 5
Author LoveOverAll Posted June 23, 2015 Author Posted June 23, 2015 He got exactly what he was looking for. And he'll be distant until he wants it again. Pretty simple. So why would he text me "hi" today, but ignore my phone call? I dont understand.
MidwestUSA Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 So why would he text me "hi" today, but ignore my phone call? I dont understand. It's just enough to keep you on the hook, until the next time he wants you to come over. 10
Gaeta Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 No. I mentioned we had sex before & this is how he acts after. I didnt ask to see him, he asked me. Normal. Sex is something that brings 2 people together, it created closeness and intimacy. After sex he is uncomfortable with this sudden closeness so he pulls away to bring things back to a more comfortable space between you 2. He does that to emotionally detach you from him and him from you.
losangelena Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 What's the deal, are you guys FWB? You've slept together before, at least from your other threads. For the record, I don't think you did anything "wrong," it's just that he's getting what he wants from this and leaving it at that. Question is, what do you want from this arrangement?
Author LoveOverAll Posted June 23, 2015 Author Posted June 23, 2015 Oh my goodness! He got what he wanted and used you for sex. Actually, you allowed yourself to be used. This was a classic hit and run. He texted you and you ran right over there, he mauled you, talked to you like you were a piece of meat and now he's just throwing breadcrumbs at you with texts and flaky communication to keep you on the string until the next time he gets really horny. How old are you and how long have you been seeing him? What is your dating history with him? Yeah, but I was expecting for us to hangout because he even asked me to stop & get him a drink & he sounded like he was just laying back on the phone. I've been seeing him for a year now, he told me he's focusing on his work first not a relationship
Author LoveOverAll Posted June 23, 2015 Author Posted June 23, 2015 What's the deal, are you guys FWB? You've slept together before, at least from your other threads. For the record, I don't think you did anything "wrong," it's just that he's getting what he wants from this and leaving it at that. Question is, what do you want from this arrangement? I know he doesnt want a relationship right now so I guess a friendship but not just all sex. I want quality time also.
Gaeta Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 Yeah, but I was expecting for us to hangout because he even asked me to stop & get him a drink Are you his maid or something?? you go to his place upon his request and do his errands!!!!!!! 4
lollipopspot Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 I know he doesnt want a relationship right now so I guess a friendship but not just all sex. I want quality time also. I think he wants to be your "acquaintance with benefits" - he doesn't want to be your "friend." He's making it clear he doesn't want "quality time" with you. It is what it is, and I think you're going to feel used and hurt if you keep it up with him, because he's made his feelings clear about you by his actions. 2
losangelena Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 I know he doesnt want a relationship right now so I guess a friendship but not just all sex. I want quality time also. You've been friends for a year or FWB for a year? If you're hoping for something more with this guy, I'd move on. It doesn't sound like it's going to happen. In fact, there seems to be little "friendship" here. Just f*ck buddies, sounds like. 1
Gary S Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 He's a player. He's not the relationship type, so don't bother trying to understand or change him, it's not in his nature. 2
Redhead14 Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 Yeah, but I was expecting for us to hangout because he even asked me to stop & get him a drink & he sounded like he was just laying back on the phone. I've been seeing him for a year now, he told me he's focusing on his work first not a relationship focusing on his work first not a relationship -- Boy that's clear. You've been a doormat for a year. End it now. If you've agreed to a friends with benefits deal, then this is how it goes sometimes. But he's not even a good FWB, FWB is still a friend and should at least not treat you like a piece of meat. He doesn't answer is phone, because he DOESN'T WANT TO talk to you. He texted and is maybe willing to chit chat via text but it's all about giving you just enough to keep you interested in him, What do you want for yourself? Do you want a relationship with someone? Because, it's not with this guy. If you don't want a real relationship, you still don't have to accept being treated this way. Move on. 3
Author LoveOverAll Posted June 23, 2015 Author Posted June 23, 2015 focusing on his work first not a relationship -- Boy that's clear. You've been a doormat for a year. End it now. If you've agreed to a friends with benefits deal, then this is how it goes sometimes. But he's not even a good FWB, FWB is still a friend and should at least not treat you like a piece of meat. He doesn't answer is phone, because he DOESN'T WANT TO talk to you. He texted and is maybe willing to chit chat via text but it's all about giving you just enough to keep you interested in him, What do you want for yourself? Do you want a relationship with someone? Because, it's not with this guy. If you don't want a real relationship, you still don't have to accept being treated this way. Move on. Just thinking about the fact that maybe he just doesn't want to talk to me, but had sex with me really hurts. I know im not his gf, but still 1
lollipopspot Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 Just thinking about the fact that maybe he just doesn't want to talk to me, but had sex with me really hurts. I know im not his gf, but still The sooner you accept this, the better things will go for you. Decide what you want. He has, and he's treating you accordingly. 2
Author LoveOverAll Posted June 23, 2015 Author Posted June 23, 2015 Are you his maid or something?? you go to his place upon his request and do his errands!!!!!!! No. I'm not his maid, was just trying to do a favor for a "friend" but I guess not. Now that im thinking about it he was all into everything else but me after sex answering "buisness" calls. He just started getting dressed. I just feel confused & hurt. I always tell him how much I care about him, but I guess it just doesn't matter to him. I mentioned it before & said "i dont think you care about me sometimes" and he said, that's just what im telling myself, but he does.
Author LoveOverAll Posted June 23, 2015 Author Posted June 23, 2015 The sooner you accept this, the better things will go for you. Decide what you want. He has, and he's treating you accordingly. You're right. And to him im nothing. Why care & love ppl when this is what you get back in return :'(
ExpatInItaly Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 No. I'm not his maid, was just trying to do a favor for a "friend" but I guess not. Now that im thinking about it he was all into everything else but me after sex answering "buisness" calls. He just started getting dressed. I just feel confused & hurt. I always tell him how much I care about him, but I guess it just doesn't matter to him. I mentioned it before & said "i dont think you care about me sometimes" and he said, that's just what im telling myself, but he does. You're his booty call. Have you ever hung out much, apart from sex?
Author LoveOverAll Posted June 23, 2015 Author Posted June 23, 2015 You're his booty call. Have you ever hung out much, apart from sex? Not really. I've invited him out several times but he's always busy before we ever had sex he did. I guess he was just trying to fool me. playing nice.
smackie9 Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 Yup he finally got what he wanted. He wasn't your friend, he just figured he hung out enough with you, it was time to get what he came for. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 Not really. I've invited him out several times but he's always busy before we ever had sex he did. I guess he was just trying to fool me. playing nice. I would stop sleeping with him. It's clear this current arrangement isn't working for you. You see him as a friend; he sees you as a hook-up. Next time he calls, do what he does to your calls - IGNORE. 3
elaine567 Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 You're right. And to him im nothing. Why care & love ppl when this is what you get back in return :'( I fixed it for you Why care and love HIM when this is what you get back in return? He is using you for sex. He doesn't have the decency to even pretend he cares for you. Shut him down and go find someone who does care and love you 2
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