Zorfman Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 Hello everyone! It's been 5 months since the break up, about 2.5 months of NC...he was my first love and first real relationship, and I was his. We were together for about 1.5 years. I don't have urges to speak with him, and have accepted that it is over for good. I am mostly struggling with being happy and being okay with the fact that he is not in my life anymore. Although I don't have urges to contact him because I know he just doesn't want to be with me, I am unable to be happy without him...I keep thinking that there is no one else out there for me, and that I lost my soulmate. I know this sounds irrational, but I panic and become very anxious at the thought that I might not love someone as much as I loved him again. I feel like it is especially hard for me to deal with because it is my first break up. I have had 2 unsuccessful dates since the break up, and neither of them compared to my ex, which is discouraging. Does anyone have any tips for getting over a first love/believing that you can love someone just as much as your first again? I really appreciate it guys! Any help is welcome.
Shon Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 Hello everyone! It's been 5 months since the break up, about 2.5 months of NC...he was my first love and first real relationship, and I was his. We were together for about 1.5 years. I don't have urges to speak with him, and have accepted that it is over for good. I am mostly struggling with being happy and being okay with the fact that he is not in my life anymore. Although I don't have urges to contact him because I know he just doesn't want to be with me, I am unable to be happy without him...I keep thinking that there is no one else out there for me, and that I lost my soulmate. I know this sounds irrational, but I panic and become very anxious at the thought that I might not love someone as much as I loved him again. I feel like it is especially hard for me to deal with because it is my first break up. I have had 2 unsuccessful dates since the break up, and neither of them compared to my ex, which is discouraging. Does anyone have any tips for getting over a first love/believing that you can love someone just as much as your first again? I really appreciate it guys! Any help is welcome. Hey there i'm in almost the same situation with you only just not my first break up, but the first girl i truly love, and just 2 months from breakup, she move on in just one week, i'm hurt even more now, when i found out, i don't know if i can give you a good advice, but one thing i'm sure, that's someone out there waiting for you, just need to find that guy, it won't be easy give it time, it's just 5 months, it's not enough for you, keep talking to guys, do not let yourself down with this, they where not meant to be, what's 2 dates ? Nothing, you have history with this guy, you need time to heal, i'm sure you would be able to fall in love with someone else, just give it time again, some wounds heal slower.
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