valkyrie71 Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 I just found out that 10 years ago my ex husband slept with my STILL best friend. The reason we are divorced was because my STILL best friend told me he cheated on me with another woman (A mutual friend of us 3). Today he told me he cheated on me for 3 years with my STILL best friend. I believe him, How do I confront my STILL best friend??
ravfour4 Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 Seems weird that you'd believe your lying husband rather than your friend who told you he was cheating to begin with. By her telling you he was cheating she took a huge risk because he easily could have brought up the fact that your friend who just ratted him out slept with him as well. Why did he even go out of his way to tell you this? Just to hurt you more? Seems like a real winner. Just tell your friend what he said, gauge her reaction and either cut her out of your life, forgive her or stay her friend if it's not true.
CC12 Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 How do I confront my STILL best friend?? Gently and kindly ask her if it's true? Why do you automatically believe the word of your cheating ex over your STILL best friend's integrity?
d0nnivain Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 What do you want to happen? Are you spoiling for a fight with your STILL best friend? Not sure why you keep capitalizing that word? What do you mean by that? Do you want her to deny it so you can scream at your EX-H for continuing to lie to you? Do you intend to forgive her & act like it never happened since it was so long ago & you are still friends? Personally I couldn't forgive a friend for sleeping with my husband once let alone for lying to me for 3 years while it was going on & then being two-faced this whole time playing at being my friend. You get that she probably told you about the OW because she was jealous that her MM was cheating on her. She didn't care about you. I'd tell her you know & cut her out of your life.
ravfour4 Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 The comment above assumes it's true, your top priority is figuring out whether or not it is - not cutting your best friend out of your life at the word's of your cheating ex husband without checking the facts. Why didn't he bring it up sooner? It seems like he just wanted a rise out of you. Keep us posted.
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