Volthi10 Posted June 22, 2015 Posted June 22, 2015 (edited) My boyfriend and I have been living together for almost three years. We have a good relationship, no issues and my dilemma today is that he tends to refer to me as his "chic" or his "girl" to coworkers or people he meets when he speaks about me. Fro example, he'll say oh i was telling my coworker that you liked so and so, I laugh and say o really, yeah i was like "my chic likes that." I don't like this but don't want to make a big deal because I don't want to seem all dramatic. I just feel it more meaningful if I am "his girlfriend" that's how I refer to him, at times even my husband. Am I exaggerating? Guys what's your view on this? Girls how would/do you feel about this? Edited June 22, 2015 by Volthi10 correction
toscaroscura Posted June 22, 2015 Posted June 22, 2015 My boyfriend and I have been living together for almost three years. We have a good relationship, no issues and my dilemma today is that he tends to refer to me as his "chic" or his "girl" to coworkers or people he meets when he speaks about me. Fro example, he'll say oh i was telling my coworker that you liked so and so, I laugh and say o really, yeah i was like "my chic likes that." I don't like this but don't want to make a big deal because I don't want to seem all dramatic. I just feel it more meaningful if I am "his girlfriend" that's how I refer to him, at times even my husband. Am I exaggerating? Guys what's your view on this? Girls how would/do you feel about this? It would bother me and I would say so. Also, I don't think you should call a man who won't even use the term "girlfriend" your husband. 1
joseb Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 Yeah I guess if you find the term offensive, best to let him know. It's odd you call him your husband - what's that about? My own personal peeve is if a girl calls me 'her Man' - I don't know why, but it makes me feel like she thinks I'm her possession, in a way that boyfriend, guy, etc doesn't. Funny the things that annoy us 1
jen1447 Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 I hate to break it to you Joseb but you are her possession. (j/k) I'm probably more offensive on the name giving so I don't have much room to talk, but just tell him you want to be "girlfriend." He should be ok with that as long as you don't come off like it's some sort of major problem I think. I don't get "husband" either btw ....if that's what's really at the heart of this (status), it may actually be a big deal that needs resolved. 1
mammasita Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 Hmmmm, if you don't like "chic" or girl" I guess you would be offended by what my BF and I refer to each other as Perhaps "my chic" is a little juvenile. "my girl" doesn't seem all that bad IMO. It seems to me that you might be assigning more status to your relationship than there actually is? I get that you live together, but have you really talked about a future and marriage? Why do you call him your husband? 1
kendahke Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 do you call him your husband as a joke or you're using is sarcastically? If not, then yes, you are over-exaggerating.
Lois_Griffin Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 Calling you his 'chick' is ok - if he's 17 years old. Is he?
caringsister Posted June 23, 2015 Posted June 23, 2015 Communicate and let him know that you'd rather be called his girlfriend instead of chic. Small thing - simple fix.
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