queenie01 Posted May 11, 2005 Posted May 11, 2005 shoot im so confused because i dont know if i should wait the couple weeks or not...i mean at somepoint i will have to get my stuff back, thats a given but i feel like if i demand for it back now then there really is no chance for us to try and work things out, although i dont know if he has any intentions of doing that...
ErinErinErin Posted May 12, 2005 Posted May 12, 2005 Okay- so about the getting your stuff back- I think it is completely valid to ask for it back- this will show him that you are getting on with your life and probably even scare him in the same way!!! It is your stufff and you need it back whether or not he is being weird, confusing, etc... I agree on the NC part, but I have to admit that I contacted my ex last night...I had stuff I wanted to give back to him and I also had this letter I wrote to him explaining how I feel...but at the end of the letter it bluntly says that if I don't hear from you I know that you don't want to be together and I'm moving on with my life!!! I know this may not have been the best way to handle the situation, the letter and all, but I had so many unresolved things I wanted to say and I am a very emotional person...after being dropped so quickly and him still going where I go (he asked if I seen him at the mall this weekedn cause he thought he seen me! lol) and him still calling me for dumb reasons...I felt that I needed the chance to let it all out. So he really wanted to read what I had to say and he said it was important to him...he also gave me two bigs hugs before I left...but I am not holding my breath...I know I was good to him and by judging how he was and the condition his house was in, I know that I took good care of his feeling etc for him too...so if I don't hear from him then of course I will be sad but atleast I know that I tried to make things work from my end...but I have to move on (he will be back from Toronto on Sunday so I'll know then I guess)... As for you though- you need your stuff back- just be really calm and civil and unemtional and tell him just to bring it to work or whatever...let me know what happens!!!
queenie01 Posted May 12, 2005 Posted May 12, 2005 I think I am going to wait a bit then next week around wednesday or so i will text him or email him and ask him to bring my stuff to work for me... At this point I dont even know if I want to get back together anymore, the way he is ignoring me is quite strange to me.... I have no clue why he wouldnt be able to look at me or even say hello when he sees me. I did nothing to him. The way he acts is if I was the one who hurt him...anyone understand this concept?? So we'll see but as far as contacting him, im not, i have nothing at all to say. I will get my stuff back and if he decides he wants to talk i will hear him out! Thats good that you gave your ex his stuff back and that you wrote him a letter, at least you now have some closure....
ErinErinErin Posted May 13, 2005 Posted May 13, 2005 That's exactly what I needed was some closure to the entire issue- cause now it is not up to me- he knows how I feel and I've done my best and "the ball is in his court" now so to speak!
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