Bobbi7 Posted June 22, 2015 Posted June 22, 2015 Ok, this random guy on meetup.com messaged me, told me his name, etc, etc. He noticed that I just joined a group-and so did he and thought that he'll say hello. So, I replied back and asked if he's been to any of the meetup events-a simple question related to meetup, right. He responded with some bs-like there never seems to be enough people that rsvp to any events. I'm like um, what a liar-there are a ton of people that go to the events that we're in the same group as. Then he proceeded to change the subject, to "TELL ME MORE ABOUT YOURSELF? I'm like what the heck? He's obviously looking for someone to date, seeing that he's in a quite a few singles and dating groups. What do you think?
Redhead14 Posted June 22, 2015 Posted June 22, 2015 Ok, this random guy on meetup.com messaged me, told me his name, etc, etc. He noticed that I just joined a group-and so did he and thought that he'll say hello. So, I replied back and asked if he's been to any of the meetup events-a simple question related to meetup, right. He responded with some bs-like there never seems to be enough people that rsvp to any events. I'm like um, what a liar-there are a ton of people that go to the events that we're in the same group as. Then he proceeded to change the subject, to "TELL ME MORE ABOUT YOURSELF? I'm like what the heck? He's obviously looking for someone to date, seeing that he's in a quite a few singles and dating groups. What do you think? First of all, they are all "random" I really don't understand your question. If he's looking to date someone and wants to know more about you, what's wrong with that? How will he know if he wants to try to date you if he doesn't ask questions? Do you think that when you've been contacted via online messaging, they are going to ask you to meet right at that first message?
PogoStick Posted June 22, 2015 Posted June 22, 2015 Sure he probably messaged you because he thinks you're attractive. Depending on what kind of group you're both in, I think it's perfectly acceptable. There are other times I will message someone, like because I see we came from the same hometown or they mention something interesting in their profile. There is a guy who just joined our meetup (I'm a guy too) and he wrote that he is shy and lacks social skills. I'm thinking of writing him just to be encouraging. And yes, some meetups do lack participation. I'm in a new city and the group is pretty weak here. Understand that often only 1/2 of the RSVP actually show up.
katiegrl Posted June 22, 2015 Posted June 22, 2015 Ok, this random guy on meetup.com messaged me, told me his name, etc, etc. He noticed that I just joined a group-and so did he and thought that he'll say hello. So, I replied back and asked if he's been to any of the meetup events-a simple question related to meetup, right. He responded with some bs-like there never seems to be enough people that rsvp to any events. I'm like um, what a liar-there are a ton of people that go to the events that we're in the same group as. Then he proceeded to change the subject, to "TELL ME MORE ABOUT YOURSELF? I'm like what the heck? He's obviously looking for someone to date, seeing that he's in a quite a few singles and dating groups. What do you think? I'm confused...you are complaining because a guy is actually interested in getting to know you? Do you know how many women would be THRILLED to have a guy they just met say "so tell me more about yourself"? Instead of the usual blabbing on about himself...or worse, saying nothing at all and waiting for the woman to carry the conversation? And you are wrong, often times the attendance at those meet ups is very low...it varies from what I have heard from those who actively attend meet ups.
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