canneverget Posted June 22, 2015 Posted June 22, 2015 (edited) Me and my ex broke up 1 month ago, we had been together for 5yr+ some change. she said she fell out of love for me and it was hard for her, she's been feeling it ever since January of this year (when she graduate nursing basically). First week we broke up i plead, and do stuff out of emotion (didn't blow up on her or anything). i told her i need some space, and every week since then she been contacting me. giving me weird excuses like ( did you block me on facebook? but i thought to myself, why does that matter we are not suppose to be talking) i play along every time and pick up the phone and talk to her. we both got into the same dance team right after we broke up, and couple days ago she call me to tell me that she is going out with our instructor. She said that he was the one, and already planned a year worth of trip with him. don't get me wrong the guy is fairly nice and good looking, but she just got out of 5 year relationship. isn't that going to put some stress on to them? i mean how did she know he's the one? and she also said that i was not the one for her (we both can do better). how did she moved on so quick? or did she? i just told her i need space.. won't be in contact for awhile. btw i kind of base this off my career path. i wanted to be a doctor, that would of taken 8 more years, and i don't think she wanted to wait 8 years with me thats why she left after becoming a nurse. Edited June 22, 2015 by canneverget
mightycpa Posted June 22, 2015 Posted June 22, 2015 When you told her that you need space and won't be in contact for a while, did you include the part where you say: and don't contact me anymore.??? If not, be sure to do that the next time she contacts you. Or just ignore her. As to your questions, what difference does it make? Will any answer make her come back to you? And it wasn't all that quick... she's been done since graduation in January, or probably even earlier. The truth is you don't need to know what's going on with her.... you just need to remember what's going on with you as a couple - NOTHING. Forget her and her reasons and her desires. Go be that doctor you want to be, and find yourself someone who can hang with you and support your calling.
ravfour4 Posted June 22, 2015 Posted June 22, 2015 Seems like 90%+ women on here who break-up with a guy after a long term relationship rebound instantly - i.e. they line something up before leaving. It's scary being single - no one wants to do it - not us or our dumpers who hopped into something new instantly.
Author canneverget Posted June 22, 2015 Author Posted June 22, 2015 When you told her that you need space and won't be in contact for a while, did you include the part where you say: ??? If not, be sure to do that the next time she contacts you. Or just ignore her. As to your questions, what difference does it make? Will any answer make her come back to you? And it wasn't all that quick... she's been done since graduation in January, or probably even earlier. The truth is you don't need to know what's going on with her.... you just need to remember what's going on with you as a couple - NOTHING. Forget her and her reasons and her desires. Go be that doctor you want to be, and find yourself someone who can hang with you and support your calling. yes i told her i need space for at least a month, now that she has a bf. we both agree to not contact each other for awhile. she said call her in a month, i said its going to take me at least 6 month or even up to a year. i just don't see why she want to keep in contact, doesn't make any sense. doesn't do us both any good. i told her we can't be friends. yeah i think 6 month is kinda of soon for 5 yr relationship, but everyone is different. i see the point though, move on. Thanks
Author canneverget Posted June 22, 2015 Author Posted June 22, 2015 Seems like 90%+ women on here who break-up with a guy after a long term relationship rebound instantly - i.e. they line something up before leaving. It's scary being single - no one wants to do it - not us or our dumpers who hopped into something new instantly. the thing is.. she actually never met him until she join the dance team. which was a month ago. so they only knew each other for a month. well i just don't see someone planning the year together when they only met for a month.
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