walkingonair Posted June 22, 2015 Posted June 22, 2015 I broke up with him about a month ago because he has commitment issues and is afraid of being in a serious relatonship. And everytime we got close he would push me away and i got sick of it and broke up with him even though i didn't want to break up with him. He has a lot of issues he has anixety and gets depressed often and is terriffied of rejection and getting hurt in a relationship. He then removed me as a friend on fb. Then 2 weeks after break up he texted me and said he hates not seeing my face and we texted but then i didn't hear from him.2 weeks passed again and yesterday he texted me again, we texted most of the day and today i haven't heard from him. Why is he doing this?I know it's not a booty call or w.e because when we did date he didnt want to have sex most of the time cause he said sex is too much for him to handle cause he has intimacy issues:(
Gary S Posted June 22, 2015 Posted June 22, 2015 Crazy peeps do crazy stuff. Find a sane guy for best results. 2
Author walkingonair Posted June 22, 2015 Author Posted June 22, 2015 Crazy peeps do crazy stuff. Find a sane guy for best results. Yea, he told me he's crazy:(
fitnessfan365 Posted June 22, 2015 Posted June 22, 2015 If he has that many issues, why not just let him go? Doesn't sound like you enjoyed your time with him all that much. 1
Author walkingonair Posted June 22, 2015 Author Posted June 22, 2015 If he has that many issues, why not just let him go? Doesn't sound like you enjoyed your time with him all that much. Yea i wasn't happy when we dated.Idk it's so hard to move on,i got attached to him
JJCaliGirl Posted June 22, 2015 Posted June 22, 2015 I broke up with him about a month ago because he has commitment issues and is afraid of being in a serious relatonship. And everytime we got close he would push me away and i got sick of it and broke up with him even though i didn't want to break up with him. He has a lot of issues he has anixety and gets depressed often and is terriffied of rejection and getting hurt in a relationship. He then removed me as a friend on fb. Then 2 weeks after break up he texted me and said he hates not seeing my face and we texted but then i didn't hear from him.2 weeks passed again and yesterday he texted me again, we texted most of the day and today i haven't heard from him. Why is he doing this?I know it's not a booty call or w.e because when we did date he didnt want to have sex most of the time cause he said sex is too much for him to handle cause he has intimacy issues:( I probably wouldn't describe him as crazy, but obviously someone with issues. I don't know how long you dated, but you are source of comfort for him which is why he probably has contacted you recently. If you are truly over him, don't message him back when he does this because it's playing with your mind and I assume heart. Going full no contact will be best for you both. 2
umirano Posted June 22, 2015 Posted June 22, 2015 If he told you that he's crazy you should listen and reactc appropriately. Go NC. Block and delete his number, im accounts and all other means of communication. 1
Author walkingonair Posted June 22, 2015 Author Posted June 22, 2015 I probably wouldn't describe him as crazy, but obviously someone with issues. I don't know how long you dated, but you are source of comfort for him which is why he probably has contacted you recently. If you are truly over him, don't message him back when he does this because it's playing with your mind and I assume heart. Going full no contact will be best for you both. Yes definitely has issues.We dated for a year.And when i broke up with him he seemed very upset and was mad at me. Problem is i'm not over him,but yea it's best i don't respond because i was actually getting better and feeling better these last few weeks and him contacting brang all the awful feelings back
Author walkingonair Posted June 22, 2015 Author Posted June 22, 2015 If he told you that he's crazy you should listen and reactc appropriately. Go NC. Block and delete his number, im accounts and all other means of communication. yea.Hard to move on though:(
Mascara Posted June 22, 2015 Posted June 22, 2015 Because he wants to know he still has you as an option. He texts, you reply, he gets his reassurance and he's gone again. Don't reply to any more of his texts and he'll be frantic and harassing you for months. Classic commitment phobe behaviour. 1
TaraMaiden2 Posted June 22, 2015 Posted June 22, 2015 I'm sorry, but as the dumper, there is an aspect of this which demonstrates that you are toying with him, also. If you broke up with him, then YOU broke UP with HIM. The way he feels, he probably has hope, every time you have responded that in fact, you don't mean it,. so he's behaving in the way he always has. As a commitment-phobe and flake. All this contact is not doing him - or you - any good at all, and is of no ultimate benefit whatsoever. Go No Contact. Block his number and texts and do not engage with him anywhere, any way, any time. Block him on Facebook, and block his emails and any other way he can get in touch with you. His mental state is NOT your responsibility - and if it's messing with your mind - then it's because you're letting it. Quit this yo-yo behaviour. Read the NC Guide (my signature) and stick to it, 100%. It won't kill you, but keeping in touch with him, is doing the both of you untold harm. 1
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