KissMyTiara Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 What are the reasons why a guy would not like public displays of affection? Different scenarios abound...what are the reasons why a guy would be uncomfortable with: 1. Holding hands? 2. Arm-in-arm? 3. Small kisses/pecks? 4. Hugs?
TUDOR Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 Fear of being caught because they aren't really single.
Bubbles Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 I agree. It would probably be all of the above. KMT.....are you still with him honey? bubbles
Merin Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 Originally posted by KissMyTiara What are the reasons why a guy would not like public displays of affection? Different scenarios abound...what are the reasons why a guy would be uncomfortable with: 1. Holding hands? 2. Arm-in-arm? 3. Small kisses/pecks? 4. Hugs? Is this with the New Guy KMT?
Author KissMyTiara Posted April 29, 2005 Author Posted April 29, 2005 Bubbles - NO, this is a new guy...well, the same one I mentioned a month or two ago. YIPPEEEE for me!!!! Been about 2 months now... Anyways, he's a very private person. He doesn't like to talk about any of his interpersonal relationships, whether they are with family or friends, and he says he doesn't talk about me to anyone either... Of course, they know I exist and that we are dating, but they won't know any "details." He's very affectionate behind closed doors, but beyond simple hand holding in line for a movie or something, or maybe walking with his hand lightly around my waist/on my back (as if to guide me), he's very hands-off in public. Because of my past experience, it made me worry for just a tiiiiinnnny moment that the reason why he doesn't like PDA is because he doesn't want to look off the market, or doesn't want to get "caught" or something.... But I have been in other long term relationships where ... as I think back ... they didn't like PDA either. I think more guys are fearful of PDA that girls are, so I'm wondering why?
TUDOR Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 From a male point of view I have never giving any thought to PDA being any different than how I would act behind closed doors with the exception of being more respectful to others in public so as to not offend any one. But being only 2 months in maybe that is his way of slowing things down so as to not rush it. PDA is sign of being comfortable and not holding back in some ways. Maybe its just too soon for him and he is being cautious. Just keep talking to him and allowing him to get comfortable with sharing with you and maybe he will open up more to you. You may find out he is just going slow because of being hurt in his past and trying to make sure it doesn't happen again. Good luck.
ConfusedInOC Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 He may be a bit shy about PDA. My ex was like that. It could be nothing, KMT. If you are really worried, ask him.
Bubbles Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 IMHO buys just don't want to look any less of a man because they show affection in public. I know it sounds strange and twisted but that's the way that it was explained to me by my male cousins. They did'nt mind if they hold hands in public but that is enough they feel as though anything more than that would be making a spectacle of themselves. And yes, YYYYYIIIIIIIIIIIPPPPPPPPPPEEEEEEEEEE I am soooooo happy for you! You did it gurl! You did it!!! Tell me all about him? Is he older than you? Where did you meet him? Has he been married? Does he have children? OH MY GOODNESS I am sooo happy! bubbles
alphamale Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 Originally posted by KissMyTiara What are the reasons why a guy would not like public displays of affection? some people, both men and women, are just not into PDAs. I like PDAs in moderation. I want other men to know that this woman is MINE. I also like it when I have sex with a woman and then we go out to dinner and I think of my hot cum that is still inside her pussy. Then i kiss her in front of everyone.
FolderWife Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 My husband HATES PDA. He won't let me kiss him on the cheek or anything...I always hated it. But he will hold my hand. He hates to see other couples kissing on each other...some things should be private. And now, aside from holding hands with your partner, I have to agree. Of course I dated one guy who didn't like to hold hands either...
Author KissMyTiara Posted April 29, 2005 Author Posted April 29, 2005 It IS very new, so who knows where it will go... He's a doctor, 32, never been married, no children (that we know of!), good values, well traveled, lives in a nice part of OC... AMAZING chemistry... We can talk and talk and talk and talk, about nothing at all or deeper issues. I feel emotionally safe with this guy. Oh! And he's VERY handsome... so, he pretty much seems almost too good to be true. Thing is, he thinks he's never really been in love before. THAT makes me nervous.
alphamale Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 Originally posted by Monday My husband HATES PDA. He won't let me kiss him on the cheek or anything...I always hated it. well MONDAY, if my wife looked like a feline that just got out of the washing machine I would not be into PDA either
Bubbles Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 alphamale, Did we really need to know that?????? bubbles
Bubbles Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 KMT, Good luck with Love to you!!! I hope this is the one for you. Don't worry about the fact that he has never been in love.....there's nothing wrong with that, maybe he has an idea of what LOVE should feel like and he does'nt think that he has experienced it yet. I hope he does with you... He sounds DREAMY! bubbles
Debster Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 I'm way more into PDA than my husband. He'll hold my hand, have his arm around me, cuddle during movies and stuff, and quick kisses. Some guys are just like that. I think you might be reading too much into it.
UCFKevin Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 I don't have a problem with any one of those. I don't like hardcore making out in public or anything I would be embarassed to do in front of my parents, but hell, I like holding hands and stuff like that.
quankanne Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 I dunno, Tiara, some folks are just brought up thinking that public shows of display are "not nice." But give him time, and slowly get him hooked on doing things in public – it's very much a learned habit that someone begins enjoying as they grow accustomed to doing so. DH told me that he never used to be the kind to show PDA, which really surprised me, because since we've been together, he's always reached over to hold my hand or let kiss me in public. And if no one's looking, I get to goose him while we're out
Bubbles Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 baaaaa haaaaa haaaaaa that always get 'em eh quankanne? You're killing me! too funny!!! I do that too......I get $hit for it.......but I do it.......I don't care bubbles
quankanne Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 I don't like hardcore making out in public or anything I would be embarassed to do in front of my parents when we were first married, he refused to fool around inside my parents' house! Something about not wanting them to look in his face and know what he did to their baby ...
Bubbles Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 And now you Goose him in front of the parents right????? LMAO!
quankanne Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 And now you Goose him in front of the parents right? hee hee .... his family, my family, it doesn't matter. Just the idea that I'm doing that kind of thing while someone else is in the room makes him paranoid!
Bubbles Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 I'm falling off my chair laughing over here! I love it when a guy gets goosed! The expression of their face is PRICELESS!!!! and then they get so upset huh? Like you did something wrong. LMFAO! Thank you quankanne.......that's the best laugh I've had all day! bubbles
tiki Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 My H is way more into PDA than I am. I'm not too crazy about it. I always think *white trash* for some reason??? --whenever he shows me PDA. Idunno....maybe there's something wrong with ME.
tiki Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 Originally posted by quankanne And if no one's looking, I get to goose him while we're out What's that????
Bubbles Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 tiki, You don't know why you are not comfortable withPDA's......hmmmmmm......interesting. You could have the answer that KMT is looking for. For obvious reasons.......quankanne and I are not doing so well helping out here. We're having a good laugh but not helping......we bad. bubbles
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