Did they love you if they moved on so quick?

[mightycpa]

I am just of the opinion that you can't turn love off. If you trully love someone, you will always to some degree.

You're right about this:

 

you can't turn love off

but you're wrong about this:

If you trully love someone, you will always

just as you can't make yourself love someone, you can't make yourself stop, and you can't help how you feel either way. Love can begin and end. It happens all the time. I'm sure she doesn't hate you, but she may very well feel indifferent. It does not change how she once felt.

 

You will not love her the rest of your life. In fact, right now you're probably feeling more loss than love. There's a difference. When you first love somebody, even if they don't love you, you don't feel hopeless and despondent. You feel joyful. That's not how you feel right now, is it? There's a very good chance you simply feel connected, dependent, and it will take a little time and effort not to feel that way any more. That's not love.

[Arieswoman]

OP,

 

So my question- can you honestly say you loved someone if you move on so quick and can love another in less than a month?

 

IMO she probably did love you at one time. However she was quietly detaching herself from the relationship over a period of time until she was ready to "jump ship".

It was a surprise to you but not to her.

 

You must try and move on - I'm sorry X

[joseb]

That's not how you feel right now, is it? There's a very good chance you simply feel connected, dependent, and it will take a little time and effort not to feel that way any more. That's not love.

 

Yeah I think a lot of people mistake co-dependancy as love. Not saying you didn't love her OP, but a lot of what you feel now might be more this.

There are a lot of threads here about people being in awful relationships and wanting to leave but wont because they 'love' their partner, but when asked, they can't really think of anything they love about them, except that they fear being separated.