grokcahsevol Posted June 21, 2015 Posted June 21, 2015 Well, I'm not sure if this is an odd situation or not but.. let me explain. Before my girlfriend and I got together, she was with a girl (I'm a guy). This was about 9 years ago. Fast forward now.. They started to talk again and a few days ago she told me "It's her, it was a big part of my life that I never settled" she said something along those lines.. Then she told me it's not her and then started saying "I need some space" and "I need to figure my self out" I feel like she mentally prepared her self while keeping me around then came out with the "We aren't getting along" "We don't agree on anything" "You say I complain to much" "We fight a lot" and everything else that goes along those lines.. We didn't really fight. We didn't agree on stupid things, nothing major. Everyone complains.. Then she told me "I need space" I know for a fact they are hanging out but whats the deal.. is she confused? is she lost? I haven't contacted her cause I don't know how to handle the situation.. it's not like its another guy.. She said something that made me think she's really done... she told me "Why don't you go travel" she knows I enjoy doing that but by her saying that.. it makes me think she's 100% set I'm upset, confused, angry, everything! How do I go about this? I'm still in love with her obviously..
jen1447 Posted June 21, 2015 Posted June 21, 2015 A lot of guys make the mistake of thinking a woman is somehow less of a threat than a man to their relationship, or that it's somehow just different. It really isn't. The bonds can be just as strong, and the threat to you is just as significant. It's (most likely) not just confusion on her part or a phase or just a thing she has to work out of her system. As to what you should do, I guess just treat it as if a guy stole your girl. But ....I really don't know where you go from here regardless. You were dumped for all the same old tired reasons (space) that everybody gets when their partner gets over them and gets inspired (or re-inspired in this case) by somebody else. I'd just go lick your wounds, bc there's no magic bullet to fix it. She's with someone else now. Sorry. 2
dumbass2 Posted June 21, 2015 Posted June 21, 2015 Just be clear. You were with your ex for 9 years and for 9 years with you she hasn't ever seen or mentioned this girl during that whole time?
SycamoreCircle Posted June 21, 2015 Posted June 21, 2015 it's not like its another guy..Yes, it is. Go NC. I'm sorry for your pain. 1
coryreply Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 So sorry you're going through this OP. Dumbass asked a great question. Was there any indication at all, during the length of your relationship, that she may still have feelings for this girl? Or any girl for that matter?
Author grokcahsevol Posted June 24, 2015 Author Posted June 24, 2015 Throughout our 9 years together, absolutely not. I'm not too sure how it came about before they met at the concert.. I am sure it was an excuse to also see other guys as well to see what else is out there.. I myself am surprisingly healing faster then I thought.. but that because I have been reading a book about woman and watching videos everyday and just understand these lovely creatures. If you didn't see my other post, I will be seeing her tomorrow see this http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/534674-am-i-over-analyzing
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