Cobaltius Posted June 21, 2015 Posted June 21, 2015 Just wondering what the signs are if someone is interested in you? I'm pretty confused on my part about if someone is. Thanks
TheBathWater Posted June 21, 2015 Posted June 21, 2015 Behaviors are so idiosyncratic that, unless it's made obvious, it can be hard to judge objectively. My rule of thumb is that if my intuition is telling me there is something there, then there probably is until proven otherwise, and I pursue.
Phoe Posted June 21, 2015 Posted June 21, 2015 I've always had a hard time with this too, so I'm there with you, but I've learned from others on LS a handful of basics. They appear to take an interest in you moreso than in others around you, they often touch you (perhaps just on the arm or something), hold prolonged eye contact. I blush around a man I'm interested in And, then if they TELL YOU they are interested in you, that's typically gonna be a pretty good indicator, but sometimes it's not haha. I know that every time I thought someone was interested, I was wrong, so I always find it best to take caution rather than make assumptions. 1
Author Cobaltius Posted June 21, 2015 Author Posted June 21, 2015 Behaviors are so idiosyncratic that, unless it's made obvious, it can be hard to judge objectively. My rule of thumb is that if my intuition is telling me there is something there, then there probably is until proven otherwise, and I pursue. Yes, I can't tell if it is a work of over-confidence. I met this girl at a swim meet at one time, it was first fueled by her friends coming up to me and telling me that she thinks I'm "cute" and to get her number. So I did so, and she denied and I left like nothing happened. 10 mins later she comes back with her friends, and they apologize for her. I ended up giving her my number, and it seemed pretty awkward on her end. She seems to be that shy and partially introverted kind, because every time we talked the next day at the Swim meet, she seemed just a tad bit shy and tended to smile and look at me when I talked. I see and her friends laughing together when I around as well as her waving to me. After the meet was over we texted a little bit for a few days until she randomly stopped texting me back. (This is going to sound pretty childish and very teenage of me) But I use "Instagram" but rarely (Just check whats new), and I found her on instagram and followed her, and of course she followed me back (she liked some of my photo's I posted shortly after I followed her) So the next week there was another swim meet, and I messaged her on Instagram instead of text to ask if she was going, she replied of course and we started to talk a little bit, but shortly not replying to my messages. I walked by her a few times and she waved to me and smiles. Now recently, I had a swim meet from this Friday to Sunday (Today) (We both are swimmers ha), and I catch her looking at me when she walks by our team area, or when I walk by her. When she was talking to her friends, she was maybe about 75 ft away from our team area, and I couldn't tell if they were talking about me, because I felt like I did she all of them looking at the direction I was at. Now lastly, before the meet was over, I warming down in the same lane with her (Wasn't much people in the lane) And I stopped at the wall while she was there and was a random silence for about 3 seconds until she said Hi to me (Haven't talk to her since the first meet where I met her). We then had a short conversation again, and she had like slight nervous smiley voice when she was talking to me and pretty quiet. I just can't tell if its just a conformation bias of some sort. I can't tell if its my intuition is saying she does versus over confidence? I am currently very head over heels for her. I will be have a joint morning practice with her team in about a week and a half. Any suggestions or advice? Thanks!
JuneJulySeptember Posted June 21, 2015 Posted June 21, 2015 Yes, I can't tell if it is a work of over-confidence. I met this girl at a swim meet at one time, it was first fueled by her friends coming up to me and telling me that she thinks I'm "cute" and to get her number. So I did so, and she denied and I left like nothing happened. 10 mins later she comes back with her friends, and they apologize for her. How old are you? Like 14? I don't really have any dating advice for people of that age, but it sounds to me like either a) she likes you or b) her friends were totally screwing with you. And based on your social status in school, you should easily be able to tell which is the case.
Author Cobaltius Posted June 21, 2015 Author Posted June 21, 2015 How old are you? Like 14? I don't really have any dating advice for people of that age, but it sounds to me like either a) she likes you or b) her friends were totally screwing with you. And based on your social status in school, you should easily be able to tell which is the case. I'm 17 pretty young I know and I tend to over think things a lot so probably sounds like this is coming from a 12 year old. I talked to her about the whole thing on what the did, and she admitted on what she said about me and ect.
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