mose834 Posted June 21, 2015 Posted June 21, 2015 My previous posts on this thread explain the background of this girl I was interested in that had a breakup with a fiancé. A couple of nights ago at a work party, I finally had the courage to express my interest and ask her out. I basically asked if she would be interested in going out to dinner sometime (didn't directly say "I like you" or anything related to that nature). Her reply was "I don't date colleagues, but thank you. I'm sorry." I thanked her for telling me the truth and didn't speak to her the rest of the night (which was only about 30 mins before the party ended anyway). So I'm not going to lie, I'm going to feel a bit nervous if I run into her tomorrow at work. I did set myself up to be put in this situation, but as the rejected one, how do you appropriately deal with something like this? And for those who have rejected colleagues, what did you do when seeing the person again afterwards? Should it be brought up? Should we just continue to act like it never happened? Should I apologize? I know there's lots of ways to deal with this. I suppose I see a friendship to a certain extent to happen down the road (as we were really friendly with each other beforehand), but for now I feel we both need to digest this.
WhatYouWantToHear Posted June 22, 2015 Posted June 22, 2015 Should we just continue to act like it never happened? This is the way to go. 1
Gwwm123 Posted June 22, 2015 Posted June 22, 2015 Treat her as if you never asked, show no interest towards her, be the colleagues she thinks you are.
Mizz Layta Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 I have been in this situation but the roles were reversed. I had few co workers ask me out but I wasn't interested in them. I politely turned them down. I hate being asked out by co workers since it puts you in a awkward position but hey its life.It has to happen sometimes The only way to deal with it is to pretend like nothing happened and continue being cordial and polite towards her
WomenWubber Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 Being rejected by a colleague is nothing compared to what could have happened had she accepted. There's a reason she rejected you and it's most likely not about you. Be thankful she turned you down and, if you value your job, don't ever ask a colleague again. Don't bring it up. Forget it. 2
RedButton Posted June 26, 2015 Posted June 26, 2015 Pretty much what everyone is saying. I remember I was chatting to a girl who worked in a different department to me for a few weeks after work and when I finally asked her out she turned me down. I tried to act as if it never happened, but for a couple of weeks she was actively avoiding me it seemed. After that brief period we were back to normal and could chat at my desk every now and then or have a laugh and it was like nothing happened, no big deal. It was funny because after all that and when we got back to normal, a few people even said 'Hey, you should ask that girl out, I think she's into you'. "Ahhh, nah, I don' think I'll do that..." 1
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