VedderisBetter Posted June 21, 2015 Posted June 21, 2015 (edited) I met a girl from a dating site and the plan was to go for pizza and bowling. We went for pizza but then we got back to our cars and she randomly calls me and says, "I'm sorry, do you mind if we don't go bowling? My mom just called me and said it's supposed to storm and I don't wanna drive back late." I told her I understand. We ended up talking for another 2-3 hrs that night on phone and it turns out she has another date this week with another guy. I also checked her city's weather on my app and the rain wasn't coming until the following day (today). I asked her about it with no response yet. She did mention to me on phone that she's not the best night driver so that could've been the reason. She did ask me if I wanted to come say goodbye and let me in her front passenger seat of her car. We ended up kissing some and said our goodbyes. Any reason you think she would've cancelled the bowling? It was glow bowling lol! Edited June 21, 2015 by VedderisBetter
fitnessfan365 Posted June 21, 2015 Posted June 21, 2015 She got her free meal. I will say though that it is weird she wanted to make out with you and then talk to you on the phone so long that night though. Based on her cutting the date short, it comes off like a sign of dis-interest.
JuneJulySeptember Posted June 21, 2015 Posted June 21, 2015 Sounds like a serial dater. There's a bunch that are regular posters here. She may have thought you were attractive enough to make out with, but she may also have 5 dates next week.
Dybbuk Posted June 21, 2015 Posted June 21, 2015 As others have pointed out here, she might not be as interested in you. She multi-dates (which I won't knock her for that because many people do) so that means she might have other suitors of higher interest on her radar and didn't feel the need to finish the date with you. If I were you I would go ahead and keep your options open as well. Personally I find it rude to cancel/alter plans so early on unless it's a reasonable circumstance. I don't know... always signals to me who are the flakes. Also, as a woman I know a lot of guys like to pay on the first date. I really appreciate the gesture from a man. However as a woman I do get uncomfortable when a first date is really elaborate or expensive because I don't know how I'll feel about him after the date is over, and I feel guilty if he spent a lot of money on me when I don't feel a connection with him. I offer to pay in these circumstances but don't force the issue if the man insists on paying. So personal advice to you, I'd always opt for a cheap casual first date. Like coffee or frozen yogurt or something. That way you weed out the 'free meal' girls who like their ego stroked. The women who really are searching for a connection with someone are very happy with a casual first date anyway. tl;dr: Don't put a lot of investment into this girl, especially if you plan to see her again. Kind of rude to cancel a date halfway and personally if night driving was an issue for me I would have mentioned that prior to the date and moved up the time. I don't know... possible bad weather sounds like a really bogus excuse to cut a date short.
Gary S Posted June 21, 2015 Posted June 21, 2015 Ditching you on the bowling and talking to another guy means low interest. 1
smackie9 Posted June 21, 2015 Posted June 21, 2015 It's possible she doesn't like bowling. Anyways at least she is being honest about dating others. She has interest but she isn't limiting herself after one date. So you have a few choices, go out with her again, go out with her again and date others, or ditch her, and find someone who is worth a second date.
Sameold Posted June 22, 2015 Posted June 22, 2015 She's not interested and she also has poor social awareness. No one in their right mind tells the person they are on a date woth that thjey have another one lined up next week. 1
smackie9 Posted June 22, 2015 Posted June 22, 2015 I know people that do this....date two or three at the same time, one is open about the other is not. They make a choice eventually.
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