Sogemini88 Posted June 21, 2015 Posted June 21, 2015 Last night, my birthday. We have been dating a month and a half and this man pulled out the red carpet for me. Greatest dates ever, we click so well. He's falling for me, hard. Last night at my birthday he got beyond drunk. I told him earlier in the evening id never seen him drunk, so I don't know if he was trying to prove something. Well fast forward. VIP, bottles, my family, friends, him. Non stop drinking. Then he gets emotional, started crying to me about something. I can't remember. Then he gets mad at me for talking to my other make friend. Then he tries to leave the club, but we stop him. He gets away and we all decide to leave too. We see him at the front door being manhandled by the bouncers and cops. They throw him out. We find him in the street and he's coming towards me screaming something. My friends and I got away and managed to leave. His shirt is torn in a million pieces and he's a mess! This is my first time seeing him beyond drunk like this. His emotional high and low was insane!! Telling me he loved me, then telling me we aren't meant to be together. His aggression was terrifying to see. He's been apologizing all morning. Im not sure how to take it all. He said he never got that drunk before. He was chugging out of a bottle at one point! We had a perfectly great month and a half. I'm not sure what to do at this point. Any comments and advice would be appreciated now.
TaraMaiden2 Posted June 21, 2015 Posted June 21, 2015 Last night, my birthday. We have been dating a month and a half and this man pulled out the red carpet for me. Greatest dates ever, we click so well. He's falling for me, hard. Last night at my birthday he got beyond drunk. I told him earlier in the evening id never seen him drunk, so I don't know if he was trying to prove something. Well fast forward. VIP, bottles, my family, friends, him. Non stop drinking. Then he gets emotional, started crying to me about something. I can't remember. Then he gets mad at me for talking to my other make friend. Then he tries to leave the club, but we stop him. He gets away and we all decide to leave too. We see him at the front door being manhandled by the bouncers and cops. They throw him out. We find him in the street and he's coming towards me screaming something. My friends and I got away and managed to leave. His shirt is torn in a million pieces and he's a mess! This is my first time seeing him beyond drunk like this. His emotional high and low was insane!! Telling me he loved me, then telling me we aren't meant to be together. His aggression was terrifying to see. He's been apologizing all morning. Im not sure how to take it all. He said he never got that drunk before. He was chugging out of a bottle at one point! We had a perfectly great month and a half. I'm not sure what to do at this point. Any comments and advice would be appreciated now. In vino veritas. something has obviously been playing on his unconscious mind. Tell him to get therapy, and to contact you when he's had a couple of appointments. Until then, tell him you really don't want to see him again, although you're not ruling out talking to him. 1
Yookie Posted June 21, 2015 Posted June 21, 2015 Run Forrest ruuunnn! ... or you can stay and brace yourself for more episodes.
rolo99 Posted June 21, 2015 Posted June 21, 2015 I just went through something very similar. Not as much drama though. I dated a guy and all was well for 2 weeks. Then he disappeared....no calls or texts, no "sign of life" online, etc. Found out 4 days later when he contacted me that he's a binge drinking alcoholic. I was a substance abuse counselor for 13 yrs. Even though I knew better, I went back to him with the understanding that I'd leave if it happened again. Deep down, I knew it would happen again. And I noticed he did nothing to get help. Two wonderful months of dating blew up when I found him so drunk that he was barely breathing. Called 911 and he was taken to a hospital. At the hospital, his blood alcohol level was 0.417! (FYI....most people are in a coma or dead at 0.350). Once he stopped that binge and recovered from the detox, I broke up with him. Hardest thing I've ever done. That was a month ago. I still think about him and wish we could be together.
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