ashley83 Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 My boyfriend broke up with me on monday because he thinks we have different directions we are going in life, and he's gonna be movin away (maybe) and he thinks that i can't handle it...He says that he still loves me and missed me. anyway, I told him not to call me unless we he wants to get back together or if there's an emergency. I said that I need to get over this and move on. I just have these sick urges to call him every 2 minutes. It's been 4 days since we have been in contact, and even though I said that....I am so sad and wish he would call me and say he misses me or something. I wonder if he's feeling this too....do you think he'll eventually call me? He couldn't possible not be bummed out about us not talkin anymore aaaaaaahhhhhh
Pocky Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 You told him not to call so it's possible he won't call and considering the reasons as to why he broke up with you, he's probably note bothered by it as much as you are. He's probably out enjoying life.
Author ashley83 Posted April 29, 2005 Author Posted April 29, 2005 how could he enjoy life without me......he loved me more than anything
Pocky Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 Originally posted by ashley83 how could he enjoy life without me......he loved me more than anything Obviously he didn't love you more than anything if he broke up with you.
Author ashley83 Posted April 29, 2005 Author Posted April 29, 2005 i know i know.....i keep tellin myself that but it hurts.....and I don't understand it
pioneer Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 He may have loved you at the time, but peoples feelins change. Anyway, it hasnt even been a week, no need to worry yet
wow Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 ashley dont worry still early days, focus on u and do a bit of personal growth. Feelings changed is a strange Phenomonem, one day he felt that he did not care enought to stay with you! The why do people take the risk to be with someone when they can switch their feeling on and off? Imagine all people did that then there would be no marriages, and we would all be flavas of the month. that is screwed up. Ashley the fact that he did that now means he can do it again. Let it be and take control of the NC issue by not calling and ignoring his calls. Girl u r da s*** so act it!
Author ashley83 Posted April 29, 2005 Author Posted April 29, 2005 So you don't think his feelings could have changed that quickly? You are right, I do need to focus on me, stick to the NC and I will be happier.
pioneer Posted April 30, 2005 Posted April 30, 2005 NC worked for me, if u have no contact with them or dont know what they are doing, the hurt goes away quicker
Gottabestrong Posted April 30, 2005 Posted April 30, 2005 You did the right thing. You told me to only contact you when he wants to get back together. How long have you been together? Stick to NC. Either he comes back or you will heal eventually. Don't let him keep you around for comfort. good luck!
Lonestar Posted April 30, 2005 Posted April 30, 2005 You need to move on. I know the beginning stages are real tough. You have an emotional addiction to him because of your feelings. It will pass with time. Keep busy, find new friends, go out more, and find a hobby or interest to put you energy into. If you contact him now, everything will be on his terms and he won't take your ultimatum seriously. Give him time. If he really does love you, he'll contact you when he realizes what he lost, but you may not want him then. If he broke up with you, then most likely his feelings have changes and he really doesn't love you anymore. Sure he may still care about you, but that's not enough to sustain a relationship.
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