No such thing as over thinking when it comes to dating

[Idolizing]

It is better to risk over thinking than to risk under thinking when it comes to making decisions about whether or not to take advantage of a dating opportunity. Often times I hear advice from folks who think they can talk me into doing something by saying

 

"well dude you are missing your chances if you spend too much time thinking before deciding to ask that woman out".

 

That kind of urgency statement is very presumptuous. It presumes that I am missing my chances when number one I don't even know if I have a legitimate chance to begin with because the woman may not be interested. Number 2 what appears to be a legitimate chance may turn out to be a disaster that I would be avoiding if I did not ask her out. The bottom line is what looks like a missed opportunity may have been a blessing in disguise for all I know. It may have been just as well that I didn't muster up the courage to go after what I wanted. The Lord has a way of working things together for good even what we perceive as potential missed opportunities.

 

I don't think there's such a thing as over thinking before making decisions about who to date or who to sleep with. I guess I am a rare breed because if a woman offers sex on the table I don't jump on it right away. I need time to think about it and I will tell her let me think about it for awhile first. She may take that the wrong way to mean that I'm not interested and that I am trying to reject her softly but nothing could be further from the truth. I am just a rare breed by personality who tends to "over think" everything as some people would believe. If that leads to a missed opportunity then so be it. It is not the end of the world and it is certainly is better than ending up in divorce court being a financial slave to anyone. People become financial slaves through under thinking and not through over thinking.

[Robert Z]

No such thing? Sure there is.

 

You argued against not thinking at all. But you can think yourself right into paralysis. What do you need to think about so much? Are you running a statistical analysis? Sound like avoidance to me! It sounds like an excuse.

 

If you like her and she seems nice, see how it goes. That's why you date instead of just marrying a woman off the street. The woman of your dreams might be who you least expect. And you could miss her by delaying out of fear.