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I've been crushing on a coworker for 10 months now and I am feeling more drawn to her by the minute. I feel like I would do anything for that woman. I idolize her and she can do no wrong in my eyes. Everything about her is just perfect to me. I mean this woman could rob a bank tomorrow and I would still be in love with her.

 

One of the fantasizes I have is acts of service to her such as washing her feet and soaking them in warm water with Epsom salt. Kind of like a religious ritual. It would be an honor to take care of her feet like that after a hard day at work. I'd want to do it every night. I would even kiss her feet too and massage them. That's such a turn on to me.

 

Taking care of her feet and kissing them is my way of expressing idol worship to her. Yes I worship this woman like she's the Messiah or 2nd coming of Christ in female form. I value her opinions and I care too much whether she is happy or upset or disappointed.

 

 

There's other acts of service I would love to do such as practical things around her house, carrying heavy stuff, etc.

 

I have actually become more helpful at work with some of my work colleagues so that when I help her out with tasks it doesn't look that suspicious. That's one of the ways to deal with a crush on someone. When you are tempted to be extra helpful to them just make sure you are just as helpful with the rest of the work team. Therefore nobody can accuse me of anything because I am treating everybody the same way. It is only when I display more kindness to her than to others that I run the risk of making her uncomfortable.

 

So yeah I care too much about her but I don't let her know that. I have no interest in dating other women. For awhile I entertained prospects with the woman in Kentucky. She looked more promising and was giving more overt signals of interest. Only problem is my interest in her was only lukewarm. She's black anyway and I'm not into black women no matter what they have to offer. I only date white women.

 

When it comes to attraction there's some things we can do to make ourselves more attractive but to a point. If a person is not attracted to you because of your skin color or height obviously there's nothing you can do about that. It is not your fault. You may have alot to offer but they only go for a certain type of person physically.

 

But I got off on a tangent. The main point is that this woman has become my idol. Instead of worshipping God I worship her above God. That's not a good thing and it may be a blessing in disguise that she and I are not together. If God keeps a door closed it just might be for my protection because He knows the dangers that come with idol worship. If a door ever opens for her and I to get together it may start out well but it will probably end in disaster along with losing my job. It is not that uncommon for ex lovers who work together to try and plot ways to get each other fired.

 

To put it as bluntly as I can I would probably sell my soul to satan if that's what I had to do to be with her and keep her happy. This is more than a crush situation. I am in the midst of a spiritual battle. The skeptic members won't understand what I am talking about but I know what's going on here.

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The reason you have such an intense crush is because since you don't know the woman, you can imagine she's your ideal woman. She isn't. She'd probably go running if you tried to wash her feet. She probably would hate being "worshipped" because by its very nature, it means she's that much better than you, so I'm sure she wants someone of equal or better stature, not someone she can run all over.

 

You need a dose of reality. You are getting lost in a lot of delusions.

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The reason you have such an intense crush is because since you don't know the woman, you can imagine she's your ideal woman. She isn't. She'd probably go running if you tried to wash her feet. She probably would hate being "worshipped" because by its very nature, it means she's that much better than you, so I'm sure she wants someone of equal or better stature, not someone she can run all over.

 

You need a dose of reality. You are getting lost in a lot of delusions.

 

Well since we don't know her we don't know what she expects from a man. So my guess is just as good as yours. So maybe she does want to be worshipped as a God. You know even less about her than I do so you also can't definitively say she wants an equal partner. We can't definitively say what she does or does not expect from a man.

 

I have nothing to lose at this point. I am not interested in other women so it isn't like I am wasting time. I'm going to remain single regardless of what happens with me and her.

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You can't paint all women or all men into one brush and assume to know what they want and expect from a significant other. I would be very offended if anyone tries to paint me into a broad brush as a representative of what men are looking for. I am unique and I am my own person. What I want from a woman may be the exact opposite of what other male members on this board want.

 

I would be offended if let's say I was not here but a female had a crush on me and came here seeking advice and members here tried to get inside my head for her telling her "oh he probably wants this or probably doesn't want that". I would really take offense to a bunch of strangers trying to get in my head like that when they know nothing about me and I'm not even here to explain myself.

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WHY you idolize her so much? what are the reasons?

 

beauty?

Intelligent?

Grace?

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Because she has worked there longer than I have and has seniority over me. I admire her work ethic and job performance. Having more seniority than me is attractive. Also she is old enough to be my Mom. I am 34 and she is 57. I could be a son she never had and good lover all wrapped in one package. From the sounds of it based on stories she tells me I do not think any of her kids did a good job honoring her. I have witnessed firsthand over the years the way they talk to her and treat her. She tells me things about one of her sons being in trouble with the law. Sometimes I wish I was her son by flesh and blood because I would obey her the first time she tells me to do something.

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Because she has worked there longer than I have and has seniority over me. I admire her work ethic and job performance. Having more seniority than me is attractive. Also she is old enough to be my Mom. I am 34 and she is 57. I could be a son she never had and good lover all wrapped in one package. From the sounds of it based on stories she tells me I do not think any of her kids did a good job honoring her. I have witnessed firsthand over the years the way they talk to her and treat her. She tells me things about one of her sons being in trouble with the law. Sometimes I wish I was her son by flesh and blood because I would obey her the first time she tells me to do something.

 

I think you should seek counselling...

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I think you should seek counselling...

 

That's the best you can come back with? Just oversimplify things and recommend counseling. I don't have that kind of money to waste.

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I have reported you for going off topic. I hope you enjoy the infraction.

 

Well, please enlighten us here...

 

What "is" the topic here? Same rant and raving over and over. You post here and we give advice/opinions and you post it over again.

 

What can we post to respond to your OP?

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Well, please enlighten us here...

 

What "is" the topic here? Same rant and raving over and over. You post here and we give advice/opinions and you post it over again.

 

What can we post to respond to your OP?

 

How come you have so much patience with me all this time? I would have thought you would give up by now.

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How come you have so much patience with me all this time? I would have thought you would give up by now.

 

Now I'm confused...I thought you didn't like my response to your thread?

 

My YouTube video response to your thread was appropriate - and quite cute. I like those lunchable commercials and everything you post is "messed up"

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Now I'm confused...I thought you didn't like my response to your thread?

 

My YouTube video response to your thread was appropriate - and quite cute. I like those lunchable commercials and everything you post is "messed up"

 

I don't. You didn't answer my question. Loveshack cops are on their way to write you a citation.

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what are you hoping to achieve posting this?

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