strawberryshortstack Posted June 21, 2015 Posted June 21, 2015 It's not even close to that cut-and-dried, but I appreciate your decisive judgement based on virtually no information. Yes, actually it IS that "cut-and-dried". If all of your sexual partners are not aware of the others, it's cheating, and that is not the same as polyamory. Polyamory is "ethical non-monogamy" - the ethical part being where all of your partners know that you are non-monogamous. If your girlfriend isn't aware (and approving!) that you're sleeping with others, this is NOT polyamory.
ChicagoSparty Posted June 21, 2015 Posted June 21, 2015 Yes, actually it IS that "cut-and-dried". If all of your sexual partners are not aware of the others, it's cheating, and that is not the same as polyamory. Polyamory is "ethical non-monogamy" - the ethical part being where all of your partners know that you are non-monogamous. If your girlfriend isn't aware (and approving!) that you're sleeping with others, this is NOT polyamory. She knows. And she knows I'm not committed. And she knows it's not a lifelong relationship or leading to marriage or kids. I've given her all of the information she needs to make decisions for herself. Now, do I sit down and tell her about every little thing I do? No. It's sort of an 'ignorance is bliss' situation. Anyway, I've let her know what I'm about. I've let her go. But she comes back (or won't let me go...however you want to phrase it). She is the person that I do all 'relationship stuff' with. Any other woman who enters the scene knows the score. I'm very upfront about it. Sorry I'm not writing a novel about this, but I don't have a ton of time to hash out every little detail. Does it sound weird? Yes. Is it weird? Yes? Does it adhere to a Miriam-Webster dictionary definition of polyamory? Probably not, unless you just stick to the root words and leave it at that without a whole bunch of qualifications.
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