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I broke no contact with my ex two days ago (not that I was even doing well at it) but anyways I felt comfortable enough to ask the questions that have been plaguing me. All in all he said he didn't feel romantic feelings for me any more and doesn't think he's in love. Possibly for the past two years.... He also said things like he hopes I'm having fun and yada yada. He was so indifferent to me and while he was honest.... He was also very heartless toward me.

 

My question is, when you've wanted to tell your ex how they've broken you and ruined the future you thought you had and that no you're not having fun and just generally how angry you are... What did you do?

 

I want to just tell him how I feel. I don't feel as though I'm burning any bridges because I don't want to be with someone who could treat me like that. I don't see us getting back together but I have such anger towards him that I want him to know about. How did you all deal with this?

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Likely not the answer you are looking for or perhaps even expect. Anger solves nothing and at most will only give you temporary relief. That said plenty of people can get furious, oh boy can people rage as if it was a contest to make all your blood vessels explode.

 

I'm a calm person and I'll always feel disappointment rather than anger. Don't get me wrong I'm well aware of what anger is and have felt it too while younger, but it truthfully does nothing but prolong your own misery. This may of course be all nice and dandy for me and others like me, but seriously you need to learn to let things go.

 

As much as you want him to understand your pain and anger, he without a doubt can see and is well aware of, but he probably just doesn't care. He has moved on, and in most cases it means those left behind have become insignificant. This is not always the case, but since you aren't getting the feedback you desire from him, it is time to let it go.

 

Someone else out there will treat you better and empower all your feelings, this may not do you much good this very moment but it is the truth. Those people who do need to let their anger out, sometimes benefit from having a person who will listen to them say even the worst profanity. Maybe this is you and I don't blame anyone for having the need to do so, regardless if I prefer different myself.

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One of my faults is speaking too much truth when I'm angry. I went NC for a month and recently we started talking again. I feel anger more than anything toward her at this point in our (lack of a) relationship. So I just let the words out. I don't yell or try to talk down to her, but I have let her know how pissed off I am about what she did. Of course it doesn't end in productive conversation but I'm a believer in speaking your heart. A lot of people here will tell you to bite your tongue but I say go for it, especially if your aren't interested in/no longer want any reconciliation. I feel better saying what I feel I should say than potentially missing the opportunity to be honest. Just my $0.02.

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