kace Posted June 19, 2015 Posted June 19, 2015 I was with my older ex boyfriend, I am 24 and he is 44, for 3 years in a LDR. My ex was very into me and he would tell me how much he loved me and said that he couldnt live without me and that he wanted to marry me, up until february this year when he met his new girlfriend who is 27 through work. They have now been togther about 5 months in a LDR but have spent lots of time together including meeting each others family. During this time he has initially told me he misses me and is confused and has flirted with me and suggested hooking up. I decided that after 3.5 months of back and forth that NC was best for both of us which I kept for a few days, till he texted me insulting messages because he was jealous about my male friends. He did apologise but I was angry and told him I never wanted to hear from him again and remained strict NC for 2 weeks. He texted me 2 days ago with a text asking for money back if our show tickets get refunded. He was very mean once i responded which he always is when he is with her. Later that night I sent him an email to clear the air saying I didnt want to fight anymore etc. that I hope in the future we can be friends but that I will be remaining in NC till I am ready. He hasn't responded and I don't think he will. His new GF is very different to me she is very social and out going and I am quite a reserved and private person. Since being with her he is posting on FB non stop about everything they are doing and how happy and blessed he is etc. and so is she. It hurts to see this whilst I am feeling so upset about the break up still. I know deep down we were not going to work. We were into all the same things but we both have issues when it comes to relationships. I struggle with trust and intimacy due to past relationships and my ex suffers from depression and expected me to be the cure. None of his previous relationships have worked out and his exes always left him. I guess what I can't accept is the betrayal and it makes me feel like everything we shared was a lie because he talks about her on facebook the same way he did with me. Its been 4 months since I found out I just want to be over him already
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