should i worry if boyfriend won't make us his profile picture?

[starla33]

I made a picture of us my profile picture a while ago because even though we had tagged pictures together I still had guys emailing me randomly trying to flirt. So they stopped this after I put a picture of boyfriend and I as the profile picture.

 

My boyfriend however has yet to put any of our pictures as his profile picture and we have been together almost a year. He just changed it and of course its of just him again. This kind of hurts my feeling and makes me wonder if this is a really bad sign? I know this sounds kind of stupid and petty and I totally get that, but I can't help the way I feel about this. Shouldn't he want to show me off?

[d0nnivain]

Social media makes trivial things seem more important then they are. Eventually he'll get around to posting you but if you annoy him about it that will destroy your relationship

[StalwartMind]

Stuff like this makes me worry about how fragile people's sensitivity is, not to forget how little it takes to make you suddenly feel despair and worry. If he otherwise confirm, respect, love, care and cherish you, then you should not worry. I don't care what kind of profile picture a person use, no matter the community/website/social medium, it's a fairly insignificant thing in comparison to all the things that should actually "matter". That said I more than understand what you are saying, but I think you are putting too much emphasis on something innocent.

[S_A]

Love my GF to death, but when we had facebook I only ever had a profile picture of myself. Don't think I'd ever use a picture of the two of us now that I think about it. Hope that helps!

[preraph]

All you now know is that your bf doesn't define himself by you. That's all. He doesn't feel you are one person. He maintains his identity. Nothing wrong with that.

 

Yes, of course, he might be doing it to continue to seek other women, but honestly having a gf photo up there won't stop other women from flirting with him. Slow it down maybe a little, but truth is there's always someone it won't stop.

 

Take Donnivain's advice and don't make it an issue. Meanwhile, certainly stay on the alert for any real cheating. But don't start nagging about stuff like this or you'll make it real easy for him to justify cheating.

[jsp32020]

Lol... every now and then I'll get a good picture of myself or my son that I want to use as a FB pic but if my girlfriend isn't in it the new pic it I know I won't ever hear the end of it. So it's the same darn pic from like 2011. She and family is in the cover pic but that won't matter much especially since my mom is in it too.

 

Yes, so trivial, and another reason I keep my presence on there at a minimum.

[S_A]

GF and I deleted facebook once we realized that facebook was not about getting or staying connected. It's about showing the world what you want them to believe your life is like. It's phony IMO.

[Got it]

The best relationship advice I can offer you, figure out "is this a hill you want to die on?"

 

In my eyes, absolutely not. It is quite trivial. My husband doesn't have me in his profile picture and I don't have him in mine. Does that mean we should divorce?

 

Why the need for a public acknowledgement. Are you not feeling secure in the relationship?

[No Limit]

Give it some time, make a few amazing holidays and take picturse while you're there - a fwe real nice photos and I'm sure he'll post it on his profile. As for avatar pictures - it's HIS profile, as long as he doesn't start duckfacing into the camera it shouldn't really matter.

[understand50]

NO,

 

negative

 

Nope

[Keenly]

While I understand that you put up the picture of you two as a couple as your profile picture because you wanted to, you do not have the right to insist that he do or that he want to do it because you do. That would be projecting your own feelings onto him, and then demanding that he follow your orders.

 

I say orders because you basically walking the path of telling him what to do.

 

 

It's his profile. He will do what HE wants with it.

[Got it]

And my other advice, talk to him! Put it in "I" statements, such as, "I feel insecure that you don't have any pics of me on your facebook page, may I ask why?

 

And then listen to what he says.

[joseb]

It's not a joint account is it? It's his FB page. Make a big deal about this and you will piss him off.

 

Sometimes I think people try to come up with problems because they don't have any. Maybe go talk to someone who has recently fled a worn torn country and see if they think your concern is justified.

[TunaCat]

Don't worry about it!

 

My ex had a picture of us as his profile pic but I did not. Not because I was trying to hide the relationship, but because the people closest to us already knew we were together.

 

He didn't care that I didn't put a picture of us as my profile pic because he knew how I felt about him.