jonsar Posted June 19, 2015 Posted June 19, 2015 ME and my girlfriend broke up last Friday , on Tuesday we had a long chat and I came back home. I know I shouldn't have , but I committed the cardinal sin of checking her messenger and texts , what I found is probably what I deserved for looking. She had contacted her ex boyfriend and asked him to have a weekend away with her in a cosy cottage... She also contacted another ex boyfriend (whom I work with ) asking him to ring her. Obviously I am a bit shocked and feel there is a trust issue to a certain degree now in our relationship. How do I move on from this , should/can I trust her as a person that can easily move on to jumping into bed with an ex so quickly? I was devastated during our time apart and did not contact other women etc , that was the last thing I needed right at that juncture. Suggestions please , thank you
JewelD Posted June 19, 2015 Posted June 19, 2015 I'm assuming these texts were during the period you were broken up? Everybody handles breakups differently. When you end things with someone you cared about, instinct tells you to go back to the last place where someone cared about you, that's why she called exes. People who she already knows are capable of wanting her. She may have just been hurt and looking for attention but decided not to when she saw she could be back with you. You already don't trust if you come back home and immediately look through her messages. Now that you found something unpleasant, you're probably not going to trust her for awhile, whether you want to or not. Just because you didn't contact other women doesn't mean that you felt more strongly about her. People cope with pain differently. You may as well come clean and tell her what you saw and talk to her about it. You've both got some issues that need to be talked out together.
d0nnivain Posted June 19, 2015 Posted June 19, 2015 You get out. She moves on way too fast to be serious about you.
GoBlue Posted June 19, 2015 Posted June 19, 2015 How do I move on from this , should/can I trust her as a person that can easily move on to jumping into bed with an ex so quickly? How would you answer that question to a friend or loved one? I know how I would, and I know what I would do. Someone who treats sex so casually is not someone I could make a commitment of marriage to. She broke-up with you. She made plans with other men. She is clearly not committed. What do you think you should do? I know you care about her, I know how hard loneliness can be, but do you want to continue to open yourself to deeper and deeper hurt?
ravfour4 Posted June 19, 2015 Posted June 19, 2015 Seems like she panicked after the break up and went right back to what was familiar. On the flip side, asking an ex to marry her or ring her seems to be crossing the line vs. just talking about meeting up. What if he had done it?
kasop Posted June 19, 2015 Posted June 19, 2015 Seems like she panicked after the break up and went right back to what was familiar. On the flip side, asking an ex to marry her or ring her seems to be crossing the line vs. just talking about meeting up. What if he had done it? I think he ment call her not marry her
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