Emjie 0211 Posted June 19, 2015 Posted June 19, 2015 I met him 9 months ago. I'm French and he is american. He is the one who were more into the relationship(I liked him but I also hard to protect my heart). He introduced me to friends, quickly we went on a weekend with his friends. Last december, he went back to the US to visit his family. He texted me everyday. When he came back to France, he told me that he also saw his ex(they broke up 2 y ago and he loved her) but they are very different now. According to him, nothing happened, he wanted to be honest. Few days after I was supposed to spend new years eve with him & friends but I didn't go.The day after he went to Sweden & there he was still texting me everyday. When he came back, we were still texting, seeing other and having sex. We were exclusive. It was like that for 2 months then we discussed. He said he also though it would be over when he told me about his ex but he really like me.After the talk, it was better.We were still doing couple things : Valentine's day, restaurants, movies, meeting friends etc. Everything was good but a bit more than 2 weeks ago we had a small argument through the phone. He asked me what I was doing and I asked him the same. He just finished music rehearsal with friends from church and he was waiting for the group. His music friends and the group are almost the same people. I was a bit confused about it so I said " but you were not with them already ? " and he got mad as hell. He said he doesn't like people aking questions. I was suprised cause I told him a good news after a stressful week (I was looking for a flat - had a deadline) But still he made a big deal about it and ruined the good news. I told him it's not cool and supportive. After that we didn't talk until the next morning. I sent him good morning text. He replied, told me what he was doing and nothing at all for the whole week but he liked my pics on Instagram. After the week I sent a text. We talked but nothing much. The day after I went with friends to an afterwork. He asked what I was doing. I told him and he called me. He told me he would be here if he knew about it. I said he could still come but then he said he was Home.. I told him I could come at his place after if it wasn't too late, so then we could talk.He said yes and I went there. He opened the door, took me in his arms without kissing. He was already sleeping. He took me to sleep on his chest. In the morning, he was cold and not really talking. During the night I got a text about someone I know who committed suicide with funeral details.He asked me what's wrong and I told him about the text I got. He said he was sorry. He got off the tube before me, kissed me on the forehead and then said to text him when I was home. I forgot, cause I got more details about the death. So he texted me. Asked me how is work (it difficult lately, a guy is really mean) he told me he could go beat up the guy if I want to.He was also saying that next time I'm sick(flu or else).he would make me a special drink. Then he said that he was cold at night and in the morning because we haven't talked for a week and things don't get back to where they were without a discussion. I agreed and said I came to discuss but he was already in bed. He said it takes 2 people to communicate and that he apologizes because he didn't also check on me.So I told him we could talk tomorrow after the funeral or on friday.He said ok.I went to the funeral but we haven't seen each other. So on Friday, no news from him, Itexted and asked about his plans.He said hewould go to the gym after work and maybe get some drinks, depending on how he feels. He also said I can come. I asked what he would do if no drinks and he said " I'll sleep " I got a bit mad and told him we were supposed to meet up on Thursday, Today not sure, That I'm not gonna push. He said " honestly I need some time and distance"I said " alright " nothing for 3 days but he was still-liking my pics on Instagram. Then he texted " hey are you doing ok ?" I said I'm ok. Then he sent " I'll still check on you if you want. I'm still your friend " I didn't reply. He knows I don't stay friends with exes, friends with benefits. I already told him that face to face! So he knows. Then he was asking about work.My answers were basics and quite cold. Then nothing for more than a week but still he likes pics on Insta at different time of the day but no pics with me and guys. There it is. Tell me why talking about having a conversation and then to disappear ? He gives me cold shoulder when everything is bad for me : work, flat (Thank god I found something and he didn't help) funeral. I know he deals with the same stuff but I was there for him.Before the argument, his bag was stolen with computer. I think he's selfish. During the relationship, he said I was too good for him. He also said twice he has done something in the past but was afraid of my reaction. I found He got arrested 3 times in the Us, last time in 2011 for larceny in a building. It's been 3 years he is in Paris. He doesn't Know I know. We both 28. He has also some trust issues. Yesterday I saw that he liked a video on Instagram, posted 11 weeks ago. The legend was " when you see your ex moving on doing good and happe without you .." The video is about a guy calling his ex to check on her. She's doing very good and he is saying that he sees it on Instagram and that god is taking care of her. Then he aske how long she's been talking to god... Thank you for reading.
minime13 Posted June 19, 2015 Posted June 19, 2015 Um, what were his other two arrests for? Yeah, it kinda sounds like he did break up with you without formally breaking up with you. And yes, he's pretty selfish. He couldn't be bothered to comfort you or think of your feelings after your friend's suicide? Move on, he's not worth your time. And he's right, you are too good for him. Take his own advice.
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