Gino Posted June 19, 2015 Posted June 19, 2015 I need help and advice pls answer.. I have this female friend of mine over a year ago, and this girl likes bonding with other male friends besides me.. doubting about being 'friend-zoned' to her. We met always and been together when hanging out while riding with and asking me favor to take her home always, so as I did wanted also spending time to her, because I'm getting fall for her.. Yesterday we hanged out somewhere and talks about past our relationships and asks me about my past also, so as various talks we did, she hits me and laughs hardly while we talk. She enjoyed driving my motorbike asking was it my first time that a girl drove my bike and answered yes it was first time, she invites me to there home while her parents are there and we dine alone the two of us. I didn't told yet my feelings for her but I acted to her that I will care for her no matter what while assuming that she might felt me that I do have feelings for her. I'm doubting that I might be in 'friend-zoned' here 'cause she hangs out with me like it used to be as friends in common but we hang out just the two of us and she thanked me for being with her and spending time to her always. Would I stand a chance being my girlfriend or just friends with benefits? I'm heavily confused with this, avoiding to be hurt one day.
minime13 Posted June 19, 2015 Posted June 19, 2015 Tell her you like her, would like to get to know her better, and ask her out on a real date. If she says no, then you'll have your answer.
GoBlue Posted June 19, 2015 Posted June 19, 2015 minimie13 has hit it right on the head. Be honest and open about how you feel. If you really care about her as a friend and have hopes to make her your girlfriend, how about dumping the whole "friends with benefits" idea. This never works out well and it's pretty disrespectful of the whole importance of love and commitment. Be her friend or be her boyfriend - depending how she responds - but don't use her. You'll just end up blowing a good friendship at the very least. 1
smackie9 Posted June 19, 2015 Posted June 19, 2015 Do not tell her you have feelings for her! this makes it awkward. Girls don't want to be approached like that. You only express feelings when you are in a relationship because it is a goal for the both of you to develop feelings. It's a tough situation because you guys are already "hanging out" together. Just ask her out on a proper date, but you are going to have to say you want to ask her out as a couple, or she will just take it as another hang out sesh. 1
fitnessfan365 Posted June 19, 2015 Posted June 19, 2015 Just be direct. "It's been fun getting to know you so far, but I'm way too attracted to you just to be friends. So let's grab a drink". Then if she says that she's only interested in friendship, you tell her "Give me a call if you change your mind. But I'm not interested in friendship". Then you walk away and don't contact her again. I mean let's be real here. You don't want to be just friends with her and are hanging around to work up your nerve. So there really isn't a true "friendship" worth preserving. All you'll do by accepting friendship is make yourself miserable in the process.
Author Gino Posted June 20, 2015 Author Posted June 20, 2015 (edited) minimie13 has hit it right on the head. Be honest and open about how you feel. If you really care about her as a friend and have hopes to make her your girlfriend, how about dumping the whole "friends with benefits" idea. This never works out well and it's pretty disrespectful of the whole importance of love and commitment. Be her friend or be her boyfriend - depending how she responds - but don't use her. You'll just end up blowing a good friendship at the very least. Thanks for you input, I'm just fearing of being 'friend-zoned' that's why I stated the idea of friends with benefits, but I think not so far that we hanged out alone just of us. I really like this friend of mine, what I just keep saying to her, I will take care of her no matter what. It was amazing when we're just hanging out alone, she loves talking as much as possible talking about our past relationships as while she drives my bike keep asking that, and told me was that my first time that a female drive my motorbike, I said yeah it was incredible that she's the first one who did it. That was really good moments! Edited June 20, 2015 by Gino
Author Gino Posted June 20, 2015 Author Posted June 20, 2015 Just be direct. "It's been fun getting to know you so far, but I'm way too attracted to you just to be friends. So let's grab a drink". Then if she says that she's only interested in friendship, you tell her "Give me a call if you change your mind. But I'm not interested in friendship". Then you walk away and don't contact her again. I mean let's be real here. You don't want to be just friends with her and are hanging around to work up your nerve. So there really isn't a true "friendship" worth preserving. All you'll do by accepting friendship is make yourself miserable in the process. I get your point, but friendship is part of getting to know each other well. You want me being frank to her before I assume too much. Do not tell her you have feelings for her! this makes it awkward. Girls don't want to be approached like that. You only express feelings when you are in a relationship because it is a goal for the both of you to develop feelings. It's a tough situation because you guys are already "hanging out" together. Just ask her out on a proper date, but you are going to have to say you want to ask her out as a couple, or she will just take it as another hang out sesh. I don't even have a guts to tell a girl frankly when I'm really interested, I fear of being rejected.. Hanging out and real dating is kind of difference, really..
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