sparklin Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 It's been a year since I've seen him. We had the messiest break up. And I'm pretty confused. I guess there's nothing confusing about the end result, though. We were still in constant contact for 3 months through text before we broke up. I'm still in pain... although I'm healing now.... I just don't get why it's taking so long Or why I'm not over it yet. But I kind of locked myself up since we broke up- and hid from the world this past year. I've been on a lot of dates with guys that I was no where near interested in. My self esteem was definitely compromised. But one positive thing is that I've become much more spiritual. So I joined this forum. I hope by maybe belonging here it'll help me understand what I'm going through. Just like anyone else on here, I hope I get over it. Hows everyone doing?
FistOfTheNorthStar Posted June 19, 2015 Posted June 19, 2015 Evening my friend. I am on week 6 after my breakup and I bet its hard. My ex left me for someone else. I currently have random stints of crying. Ill be laughing one moment, driving home and bam the waterworks. This pain takes awhile for it to happen, but you know what, we come out strong in the end. YOU ARE NOT ALONE MY FRIEND.
ColdandLonelyinAK Posted June 19, 2015 Posted June 19, 2015 This forum will help you. It has helped me so much, especially with learning about the importance of NC. Welcome.
mtnbiker3000 Posted June 19, 2015 Posted June 19, 2015 IMO - It's probably taking a very long time because you are now realizing you have other issues surrounding this past relationship. And that the end of the relationship was only a symptom of your issues. Not really the cause of your pain. It goes beyond him, the relationship and the breakup. It is much deeper and more difficult to deal with. Yet you associate these things together... Or maybe I don't what the hell I'm talking about. LOL!!!!
Author sparklin Posted June 19, 2015 Author Posted June 19, 2015 IMO - It's probably taking a very long time because you are now realizing you have other issues surrounding this past relationship. And that the end of the relationship was only a symptom of your issues. Not really the cause of your pain. It goes beyond him, the relationship and the breakup. It is much deeper and more difficult to deal with. Yet you associate these things together... Or maybe I don't what the hell I'm talking about. LOL!!!! I think youre right. This last guy was the last of a series of sequential relationships, 8 years long. The first 5, the second 2, and the third 1 year. It's been taking me a while because I also had to heal from the first two. I never really accepted my break up of the guy I was with for 5 years. I broke up with the first two, who were very serious about me, and left them behind without a second thought. Then when it happened to me I couldn't handle a dose of my own medicine. I was also grieving a loss of a close loved one, moving, and changing jobs at the time he broke up with me. I had one hell of a year.
Author sparklin Posted June 19, 2015 Author Posted June 19, 2015 Evening my friend. I am on week 6 after my breakup and I bet its hard. My ex left me for someone else. I currently have random stints of crying. Ill be laughing one moment, driving home and bam the waterworks. This pain takes awhile for it to happen, but you know what, we come out strong in the end. YOU ARE NOT ALONE MY FRIEND. Aww. Thanks! I'm here for you. I hope my year long wallowing can still remain somewhat inspiring to you--. I was numb at first it was too much. I started to cry in April, and that's when the healing process really began for me. Keep crying- let it out!
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