Author mapleleaves Posted June 24, 2015 Author Posted June 24, 2015 OP I don't think it's anything personal. He has the bachelor mentality and is set in his ways. Best of luck going forward Thanks! I wish I know how the "bachelor mentality" work (anyone have experiences with them?) Don't even know why these guys would ask girl out on dates but not thinking about anything further :confused: But I've texted him and told him we should stop seeing each other. Be awkward to be friends, so I didn't offer
Author mapleleaves Posted June 24, 2015 Author Posted June 24, 2015 I think you should move on to better prospects too. Its 3 mths and what you have I would not even call the honeymoon phase. One thing he is not is a player otherwise he would have bedded you numerous times by now and soon after dating you. Maybe he does have ED issues and its killed his confidence but still if he is the owner of a successful company he can easily afford the best aphrodisiacs and ED meds. He could very likely have another priority #1 gf given some of the things you posted (ie no weekends together) If you want to have a heart to heart talk with what you expect out the relationship to give it one last chance then go for it otherwise I think you are better off letting him know its not working for you. Thanks for the advice! I did let him know that this is not going to work so we should stop seeing each other. I am not sure if I want to really meet with him and talk about it. I just messaged him this morning after thinking it thru the whole yesterday, see what happens.
Author mapleleaves Posted June 24, 2015 Author Posted June 24, 2015 He didn't reply because A. he didn't want to for whatever reason - it takes 3 secs to send a text. B. he couldn't, due probably to the fact he was with someone else. Family do not stop you texting other people. Road trips do not stop you either, BUT wives and gfs do. Men who want you, want to see you and speak to you, they do not go AWOL and ignore you. I agree with you. Up to now I can't decipher whether if it's A or B--I have been inclined to B since he showed up all of sudden after a week. I felt if I don't feel like talking to someone, I won't do it forever. Whatever it is, I guess it doesn't matter anymore.
brokengirl85 Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 He didn't reply because another exciting possibility presented itself so he concentrated his energies in her. Think that this man has been single for a long time, and he must have have several girls he like to date from time to time. He must have three or four girls to date just in case. Do not settle for a man like this. Your guts are telling you that you think he's hiding something. Listen to your perception! Most women do not pay attention and end up being used by players and womanizers just because they want to "save him" or change him. Do not play his game, you'll always loose with this kind of guys. 2
Popsicle Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 They have lots of "friends" of the opposite sex and believe in this. They often don't believe in marriage, and have a myriad of excuses as to why. They think it's a good thing to date multiple people at once, as to explore their options. They suffer from Peter Pan syndrome. They can never be satisfied. Their reticence is palpable.
candie13 Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 you can feel it on your skin that deep down, they are scared. Listen to your intuition. Disinvest emotionally and see other people.
candie13 Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 He didn't reply because A. he didn't want to for whatever reason - it takes 3 secs to send a text. B. he couldn't, due probably to the fact he was with someone else. Family do not stop you texting other people. Road trips do not stop you either, BUT wives and gfs do. Men who want you, want to see you and speak to you, they do not go AWOL and ignore you. it may be even easier: - a. (most likely) you're not top of his mind. he has other people / interests that come before you. basically... he's just not that into you - b. he's playing mind games to make you react (doesn't seem the type) - c. he's socially awkward and is not really aware of the signals he should be giving you - or any other woman Me thinks a. 1
Lois_Griffin Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 1. He's 45+ and never married, educated and successful, loves talking about his success. Well dressed, and good at sweet talking. But he's single for a long time--although when he talks, he mentioned A LOT of girls he dated. TRUST me when I tell you, there's usually a reason a 45 year old man has never married or has never had a past long-term relationship (and I don't mean something that lasted 3 or 4 years - I mean LONG term). There's a reason for it. And it's never good. 3
Lois_Griffin Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 4. He rather stay out late on a weekday, but never meet on weekends. But he always talk about meeting his "friends" or just stay at home on weekends. Good LORD, how did I miss this one? So your 'mystery man' has not allowed you into ANY facets of his top secret life, and he disappears on the weekends to boot? For the love of all that's Holy, drop kick this cheating, lying LOSER to the curb. 1
Author mapleleaves Posted June 24, 2015 Author Posted June 24, 2015 He didn't reply because another exciting possibility presented itself so he concentrated his energies in her. Think that this man has been single for a long time, and he must have have several girls he like to date from time to time. He must have three or four girls to date just in case. Do not settle for a man like this. Your guts are telling you that you think he's hiding something. Listen to your perception! Most women do not pay attention and end up being used by players and womanizers just because they want to "save him" or change him. Do not play his game, you'll always loose with this kind of guys. Wow harsh truth!! I sorta thought of that yesterday too, he probably didn't have any family in town and he never went on that road trip when he disappeared--who has family that just show up out of nowhere and you just jump in that van and start traveling?! Most likely it's another girl: wife, girlfriend, or another new target. Reading this makes me feel so much relieved from stop talking to him
Author mapleleaves Posted June 24, 2015 Author Posted June 24, 2015 They have lots of "friends" of the opposite sex and believe in this. They often don't believe in marriage, and have a myriad of excuses as to why. They think it's a good thing to date multiple people at once, as to explore their options. They suffer from Peter Pan syndrome. They can never be satisfied. Their reticence is palpable. Thus he goes to a lot of meet ups and keep "making friends", I'm sure all his "friends" are girls! Sadly I turned myself into one of them girls. Sadly. 1
Author mapleleaves Posted June 24, 2015 Author Posted June 24, 2015 (edited) TRUST me when I tell you, there's usually a reason a 45 year old man has never married or has never had a past long-term relationship (and I don't mean something that lasted 3 or 4 years - I mean LONG term). There's a reason for it. And it's never good. I regret not asking the details back then, may make this easier and quicker to decipher if I did dig into his past relationships What would be considered "long term"? Most of my relationship are shorter than 3years, except for the last one-- I may need to stop sharing that info lol!! And yes, I never seen him over weekends, and he usually don't talk to me over weekends, only short texts. Sounds like a big red flag for a cheater with a secret life doesn't it? I feel like such a loser just writing this response! Edited June 24, 2015 by mapleleaves
brandonstellar Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 Is he charming? Does he take time out to listen to what you have to say? What do you know about his past relationships?
Author mapleleaves Posted June 24, 2015 Author Posted June 24, 2015 Is he charming? Does he take time out to listen to what you have to say? What do you know about his past relationships? Yup, charming person Sometime he listens, sometimes not Not too much about the past
Redhead14 Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 Yup, charming person Sometime he listens, sometimes not Not too much about the past Not too much about the past -- It's early really. Most people don't go too far into their past until they're comfortable with the person. NOt only that, lots of people tell other people not to do that -- talk about ex's, etc. in the beginning. It's a no no. But if you open that conversation, they may go there. It's if they start ranting about exs and trashing them, that's a bad thing too.
minimariah Posted June 24, 2015 Posted June 24, 2015 TRUST me when I tell you, there's usually a reason a 45 year old man has never married or has never had a past long-term relationship (and I don't mean something that lasted 3 or 4 years - I mean LONG term). There's a reason for it. And it's never good. gotta agree. no marriage isn't a big deal at all... as long as there was a QUALITY, good relationship that had lasted for at least 5+ years in his past.
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