Bobbi7 Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 I was talking to this guy in OLD, we exchanged numbers, and 2 days ago we made plans to meet up today. We confirmed the time, but not the place where we are going to meet up for dinner. Haven't heard from him since...
Torii Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 Seems to me like you might have got stood up, darling. Keep trying to contact him - to make sure, and if you don't hear anything in 3 days time, move on.
Author Bobbi7 Posted June 18, 2015 Author Posted June 18, 2015 Well, he said to have dinner at 5:30 this evening, so not sure if he will text me later...
Gaeta Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 Well, he said to have dinner at 5:30 this evening, so not sure if he will text me later... He's pulling a disappearing act on you. If you have not heard from him in the past 2 days, if it's past noon where you are and have not heard from him yet then abort this date and make other plans.
Author Bobbi7 Posted June 18, 2015 Author Posted June 18, 2015 He's pulling a disappearing act on you. If you have not heard from him in the past 2 days, if it's past noon where you are and have not heard from him yet then abort this date and make other plans. Ok, well it's noon where I'm at, so most likely he's not going to contact me at like 4pm? Is that possible?
DivorcedDad123 Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 Why not just send him a text and see if the date is still on? Although, he really should have contacted you at least yesterday or this morning to confirm and offer a place.
Gaeta Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 Ok, well it's noon where I'm at, so most likely he's not going to contact me at like 4pm? Is that possible? Do you think it's acceptable for him to contact you at 4 to let you know where you're suppose to meet at 5:30? You're not a pocket dog waiting to be instructed. You need to know at least 24 hrs ahead of time where you'll have to drive and what kind of place you're heading to. If I were in your shoe and he contacted me at 4 pm I would reply: Sorry didn't hear from you so I made other plans. 5
Redhead14 Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 I was talking to this guy in OLD, we exchanged numbers, and 2 days ago we made plans to meet up today. We confirmed the time, but not the place where we are going to meet up for dinner. Haven't heard from him since... There's nothing to cancel. If all the elements of the date haven't been nailed down by now, it wasn't a "date" to start with. 1
katiegrl Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 There's nothing to cancel. If all the elements of the date haven't been nailed down by now, it wasn't a "date" to start with. Hmmmm, I am thinking that since they scheduled an exact date and time, they DO have a date....and were gonna decide where to go later. Perfectly understandable and normal IMO. I know this may sound unbelievable, but some guys simply don't know that they are "supposed" to contact the woman beforehand to confirm. To them, it's confirmed...and they don't get the need to call the day prior to confirm what is already confirmed (in their minds anyway). Just one of the differences between men and women I guess. Anyway, if it were me, I would take a more positive approach and assume the date is ON, until he tells you otherwise. Since you are feeling anxious about it....why not send him a quick text asking "hey we still on for this evening"? If he doesn't respond within the hour after texting, assume it's off and make other plans. Hopefully though he will respond back confirming it's on, and you can then decide where to go... Let us know...
Gary S Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 There's nothing to cancel. If all the elements of the date haven't been nailed down by now, it wasn't a "date" to start with. - Bingo. You may think you have a date, but if you don't have a complete plan, day time and place, you don't have a real date set, so don't count on it.
katiegrl Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 - Bingo. You may think you have a date, but if you don't have a complete plan, day time and place, you don't have a real date set, so don't count on it. That hasn't been my experience....but whatevs.
fitnessfan365 Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 That's weird. How are you supposed to meet up if you don't have a location? I mean it would be one thing if you'd been out before, and he had your address. Then he could swing by and pick you up surprising you with the restaurant location. Some guys like to do this. However, it's a first time meet up and you'd need to know the place. Since it's day of and you never heard from him to fully lock down all the details, you've probably been blown off. My advice? Don't text him and if you don't hear from him, walk away. 2
Gaeta Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 Each time I have been in this situation, there were no dates. I actually think he did not give her a place on purpose so he could bail out of it as he wished. That's the guy who wants to dine and wine her for a first meet. He's not taking her out. He probably found someone else that agreed to go to his event he hosts and that cost him nothing. 1
katiegrl Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 That's weird. How are you supposed to meet up if you don't have a location? I mean it would be one thing if you'd been out before, and he had your address. Then he could swing by and pick you up surprising you with the restaurant location. Some guys like to do this. However, it's a first time meet up and you'd need to know the place. Since it's day of and you never heard from him to fully lock down all the details, you've probably been blown off. My advice? Don't text him and if you don't hear from him, walk away. In my experiences, either he or I would contact the other at some point in the afternoon and discuss where to meet.... I would assume he will contact you later...closer to the time of the date...to discuss where to meet, but if you are anxious about it, text him first and ask him if you're still on for this evening. If he doesn't text back within the hour after sending your text, assume it's OFF and make other plans. My experience anyway... No biggee....
Gary S Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 Katie, I can see that a place is not necessary in steady dating, it can be a surprise. But for a first meet when you are taking your own cars, it kinda helps if ya know where the other person is gonna be
katiegrl Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 Each time I have been in this situation, there were no dates. I actually think he did not give her a place on purpose so he could bail out of it as he wished. That's the guy who wants to dine and wine her for a first meet. He's not taking her out. He probably found someone else that agreed to go to his event he hosts and that cost him nothing. Wow Gaeta....you really have had some damn crappy experiences with men....sheesh. So glad I am in a relationship....I mean wow...just wow.
katiegrl Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 Katie, I can see that a place is not necessary in steady dating, it can be a surprise. But for a first meet when you are taking your own cars, it kinda helps if ya know where the other person is gonna be LOL... I realize that silly.. Read my previous post. Either he or I would contact the other sometime in the afternoon to discuss where to meet. Again some guys just don't know that they are supposed to call like the day prior or before noon to confirm. To them it's confirmed, so they don't see the need to call way beforehand. I dunno, I guess my experiences are different, and not the norm.
Gaeta Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 Wow Gaeta....you really have had some damn crappy experiences with men....sheesh. So glad I am in a relationship....I mean wow...just wow. Yep I did lol Now think about it. Imagine you're home and it's 4 pm. You think you have a date but have no clue where. You don't know if that date is 5 minutes away or 1 hour away, you have no clue of the restaurant so you don't know what to put on. You really it's proper to let a woman know 1 hour ahead where she should head? I don't even do that to my female friends.
Gaeta Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 Again some guys just don't know that they are supposed to call like the day prior or before noon to confirm. And these guys finish last and learn the hard way :-)
katiegrl Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 Yep I did lol Now think about it. Imagine you're home and it's 4 pm. You think you have a date but have no clue where. You don't know if that date is 5 minutes away or 1 hour away, you have no clue of the restaurant so you don't know what to put on. You really it's proper to let a woman know 1 hour ahead where she should head? I don't even do that to my female friends. I would not wait until 4:00 PM. I don't wait around... I would contact him and ask if we're still on.. don't get the big deal in doing that. Just me.
Gary S Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 katie, there are no callbacks to confirm in dating. This is not a doctor's office. Gaeta is right. Leaving critical date details out and callbacks to confirm are ways for people to weasel out of the date. OP, the next time a guy leaves out the time, day, or place, write him off and talk to the next guy. Don't let people take advantage of you.
Gaeta Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 I would not wait until 4:00 PM. I don't wait around... I would contact him and ask if we're still on...what's the big deal? It's HIS invitation, it's HIS job to confirm with her, not the other way around. Specially someone you've never met, not the same if you've started dating already. 1
Lansing Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 How did you leave it? Like, he said "let's go for dinner at 5:30 on Wednesday" and then that was it? No discussion of where to go? Or did he say he would let you know the place later? If the guy was interested enough he would have made it clear by now. Personally, I don't think it is worth contacting him. Why would you want to date a guy that doesn't respect you enough to let you know the plan in advance? 4
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