Gemini_jo Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 Let me preface this by saying I(22 yr old male) came to Loveshack a year and a half ago after a nasty break-up with my one only gf so far. Since then, I've been on dates with at least 10 girls and have made out/hooked up with 10 others during that time. However, I was not ready or no girl showed enough potential to be in a relationship until a girl I've been on two dates with now. I really like this girl. We had our 2nd date last night (dinner & a movie) and it was really good time. Physicality was there, holding hands, leaning against each other, putting arms around one another but still no kiss occurred. Partly due to my pu$$ness and partly because I don't want to rush things-I want things to come naturally. So, this is what I want to say to her this morning: "Last night was really fun. I had a great time. I know you're in #blank_city for the week, but I'd like to take a break from studying this weekend and have you come over and grill lunch for us and hang by the pool. I was thinking Saturday around 1?" Please feel free to give any advice. I'm open for all suggestions. I don't want to mess this one up.
Author Gemini_jo Posted June 18, 2015 Author Posted June 18, 2015 After getting 0 advice from here, went ahead and sent the message anyways. Got the dreaded, "Sounds really fun...I'll let you know if I can!" text.
Gary S Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 A couple of tips: - Call on the phone instead of text - it's easier to negotiate a date over the phone, and text is a poor form of communication. - I would suggest taking her out instead of inviting her over to your place in the beginning. - You really should go for the first kiss by date 3, otherwise her interest can wane and you can find yourself in the freindszone. The time is now. I know it's one of the biggest moves in dating/relationships, but it has to be done. No guts, no glory. Man up and do what you have to. 2
Author Gemini_jo Posted June 19, 2015 Author Posted June 19, 2015 A couple of tips: - Call on the phone instead of text - it's easier to negotiate a date over the phone, and text is a poor form of communication. I usually call the girls but not with her because she specifically told me on the first date she hates talking on the phone. - I would suggest taking her out instead of inviting her over to your place in the beginning. 1st night drinks next to a great skyline, really great date. 2nd night, dinner and a movie; very good date as well just no kiss. - You really should go for the first kiss by date 3, otherwise her interest can wane and you can find yourself in the freindszone. The time is now. I know it's one of the biggest moves in dating/relationships, but it has to be done. No guts, no glory. Man up and do what you have to. I know I need to man up! Like I said I haven't felt this nervousness and this hesitation since my ex. All the others came naturally, that's how I know this is actually a real connection. She said yes to coming over Saturday! I wrote my comments in bold above. I think I was just over analyzing the situation, which is what I tend to normally do.
doeblin Posted June 19, 2015 Posted June 19, 2015 She said yes to coming over Saturday! Great! It all looks fine. Don't worry, man. Kiss her. Be cool.
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