halopend Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 (edited) So this is a doozy, I've fallen hard for a girl who's recently divorced. I trust her conpletely when she says that she's over him (she's the one who divorced him and he's moved on anyway) but they do still work together so it keeps the wounds fresh. Anyway, I fell too fast (no doubt cause i was a virgin!) and don't want to scare her off. We are super comfortable around each other and 100% honest about our feelings. Anyway, she knows how I feel now but says she is unsure how she feels. She's afraid to hurt me and actually has been holding herself back just to protect me from falling harder if things didn't work out. Things feel so right when we are together that I truly believe her. I can actually feel the internal struggle within her when she is holding back. (i was guessing that she was doing all this before she full out said as much last night when we had a big talk about where things are) Anyway, My heart says to just be patient and let things develop naturally and take things slow. Frankly i want to be there for her and make her happy and was avoiding the big conversation cause i didn't want to complicate her life but it happened last night (where I said what I've said here). I guess i just want advice on what people think? Edit: I should add when she slips we do sexual things together Nd that i kinda suck at taking things slow though I'm trying. Edited June 18, 2015 by halopend
jen1447 Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 It sounds like she's really looking out for you, being as she's right that she could really blow you up if it turned out she wasn't all in and you were. I'd just bounce back whatever space she keeps you at and follow her lead. Some might say this isn't 'manly' enough and that she'll slip thru your fingers as a result and end up hooking up w/some other dude w/bigger balls, but you really have little choice anyway. You can't force it from where you are, unless you're willing to make the "yo, so it's decision time!" play and risk having no association with her at all as a result.
kendahke Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 So this is a doozy, I've fallen hard for a girl who's recently divorced. but they do still work together so it keeps the wounds fresh.. Leave her be. She's not done processing the demise of her marriage. That's why she's all over the place.
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