Lucky4855 Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 My boyfriend and I have been together for about 10 months now and things have been great overall. We both went into this relationship wanting something long term and have talked many times about marriage and our future plans. Over the course of our relationship, I've noticed his temper, and how unfairly he treats me during an argument. Last Friday, he decided to stop at a local fast food joint before going home and I exclaimed "oh screw you" after hearing what he was getting. With complete sarcasm might I add. He then gets super angry and doesn't say a word. I try comforting him but he flings my arm off of him. More silence. We get back to the apartment and he tells me I should go home. I asked a simple question, why? Then he starts screaming and throwing his keys, food, etc. He hasn't talked to me 5 days later. He seems to not want to fix this at all and I don't want this to be the end of things. I don't know what I should do, waiting for him to come around isn't fair for me and I just feel like I'm being manipulated
MovingOnIsHard Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 Yeah he's completely manipulating your feelings. Also, he seems like an immature schoolboy.
Gaeta Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 Then he starts screaming and throwing his keys, food, etc. He hasn't talked to me 5 days later. Really and your concern is his silent? This is the type of man you want for the rest of your life, is that husband and father material to you? 1
Dallers Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 Silence is an awful weapon. In my opinion it is the final weapon. There is no going back once silence is used and if anything it immediately shows you that no matter where you are, what you are doing or whatever peril you may be in right at this moment the person ignoring you does not care. I never tolerate it and neither should you. There is alone time and then being ignored. If you cannot work something out with words there is nothing left to work out. Mostly, silence is weakness. Walk away from it. 1
minime13 Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 My boyfriend and I have been together for about 10 months now and things have been great overall. We both went into this relationship wanting something long term and have talked many times about marriage and our future plans. Over the course of our relationship, I've noticed his temper, and how unfairly he treats me during an argument. Last Friday, he decided to stop at a local fast food joint before going home and I exclaimed "oh screw you" after hearing what he was getting. With complete sarcasm might I add. He then gets super angry and doesn't say a word. I try comforting him but he flings my arm off of him. More silence. We get back to the apartment and he tells me I should go home. I asked a simple question, why? Then he starts screaming and throwing his keys, food, etc. He hasn't talked to me 5 days later. He seems to not want to fix this at all and I don't want this to be the end of things. I don't know what I should do, waiting for him to come around isn't fair for me and I just feel like I'm being manipulated Um, let's just say that you guys are not compatible and that you should probably end this and seek out someone more compatible to you.
TunaCat Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 Why do you even care what this guy is up to? He's not worth it. "he starts screaming and throwing his keys, food, etc." He sounds like a toddler to me. Break up with him and find someone else who doesn't have anger issues. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 Get rid of him. He will someday very likely turn that temper on you by using a lot more than the silent treatment. He's not husband or father material. He's not even boyfriend material. Don't you think you can do better than him? He's a child.
HereNorThere Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 It sounds to me like he has conflict avoidant personality and uses passive aggression to punish you because he too chicken sh*t to come out and tell you that you hurt his feelings. Honestly, these type of people make the worst partners. You gotta give him credit though - his plan is working perfectly.
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