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I got a text from my ex saying I had some mail at her place. It pisses me off that's the only time I hear from her: when I have mail or something there. Do I even reply? I've been close to just saying "throw it away" and letting that be it. It was a lengthy, detailed text about what was there. On the fence about replying, and originally decided I wasn't going to even respond.

 

Any advice? Thanks!

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Text was sent two days ago informing me.

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Well since you know what it is , ask yourself if you can be without that mail.. If so don't reply and get your mail fwd to where you are now. Thing about Breakups is if the relationship is over you gotta go nc

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I got a text from my ex saying I had some mail at her place. It pisses me off that's the only time I hear from her: when I have mail or something there. Do I even reply? I've been close to just saying "throw it away" and letting that be it. It was a lengthy, detailed text about what was there. On the fence about replying, and originally decided I wasn't going to even respond.

 

Any advice? Thanks!

 

First advice: change of address form. They have them at the post office. Fill one out, and then worry no more about future mail. All important mail will be sent to you and you can tell her to toss the rest if it comes that way.

 

Second advice: get all your stuff, once and for all.

 

Question: what other reason would you like to hear from her?

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I'm a huge supporter of NC but sometimes we need to communicate real life issues.

 

It could be junk mail or it could be from your bank. My advice would be to change your address with whoever is sending you the mail or tell her to have it sent back return to sender. I feel like she is helping you out by telling you where they're from - she wants to stop receiving your mail.

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Agreed. I'm just bitter. So what do I say?

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"Please have *xx* sent back as return to sender/not at this address and junk *xx*"

 

You don't even have to tell her you're changing the address for anything. If something is important, pick it up in a neutral place, have a friend pass it along, etc.

 

I was in a somewhat similar situation with an ex after he moved out and I was still getting his bank mail - I just took it to work with me and had it shredded. I didn't even tell him I was getting it but it still hurt to see his name. Where I live now, I get mail for people who lived there like two years ago, it's just the way the mail system works unfortunately and some of it will slip through. Like I said though, she's at least giving you a heads up in case you miss important mail.

 

I know you'll get people recommending that you stick to strict NC but honestly, the way it's used sometimes can be immature. Life still goes on.

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If you need it, say thanks and go get it. If you don't need it, tell her to throw it out. Get your mail forwarded. Problem solved.

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