premedlife Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 My bf and I were together for 3.5 years. We had our ups and downs but always seemed to work things out. About 5 months ago everything I did seemed to piss him off. He would pick stupid fights with me and ignore me for weeks. I was stupid and blinded by love. Fast forward 3 weeks ago my friend showed me a picture of him and a girl on instagram. I asked him about it and he could not give me a yes or no answer so I told him to consider me dead and never talk to me again. I went NC immediately. 5 days ago I receive a call from an unknown number. Its the girl and she tells me she has been with my boyfriend for 10 months and she had no idea about me. My friend who happens to be her friend told her about me. Shocked and hurt she suggested confronting him on a 3 way call. I stayed silent for a while listening to my boyfriend. He denied me. He said we had only been together for 2 years and hadn't seen each other for 3 months. I couldn't take the lies anymore and broke my silence. He told me I can call him him all the names I want but he knows he made the right choice and don't care what I do. He did not even have the decency to tell me he was confused between me and another girl. I know in my heart that I was a wonderful girlfriend to him. I'm moving on with my life obviously these questions dont mean a thing but can't help but wonder. While talking to the girl she told me that she has been trying to get him to post a picture of her and he refuses to. Then the next day He posted a picture of her saying how much he loves her. I'm guessing she forgave him on the bases that he post the picture of her. He deleted the picture of the girl a day after. I know and everyone knows I was a wonderful girlfriend to him. His mom has been inviting me to events but I've politely declined. His sister still tries to talk to me as friends. His family love me and I've formed a wonderful relationship with them. I don't want to cut them all off rudely but they all seem to make it harder to move on. Will he ever realize what he let go? I'm currently in NC. I just can't believe he could throw what we had. It makes me feel like I didn't mean anything to him. The girl likes to party and smoke. I am currently applying to medical school, do not enjoy excessive clubbing, don't drink or smoke, and was 100% faithful to him, cooked for me, did everything for that boy. He started complaining about me being boring in January. He was my first sex partner and no matter how much sex moves I tried to learn, it seemed like nothing satisfied him. I noticed a extremely partying/drinking in him 2-3 months before all this happened. Was he with her for sex and doing those extreme partying/smoking hookah?. Did he have GIGS? Could he truly be in love with her? Is this even considered a rebound? Will our relationship ending have any effect on him? Can he possibly have no feelings for me after being together for almost 4 years? As crazy as it sound, I still love him. Although I am standing my ground and moving on with my life, I want to hear similar stories. I want him to regret what he did to me. I want to know of people who were cheated on and the ex chose the other girl and then came back. How long did it take them to come back?
ravfour4 Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 Click on my name and read some of my posts. I had something similar happen with my 4 year now ex gf. She came back a few times, but then went right back.
HunterGl7 Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 Sorry to hear about this happening to you...I went through a very similar situation. Being friendly with his family is only going to set you back. When people on here suggest going no-contact it's to make you get your own life back on track and to never lose focus on yourself. Let me tell you this, you clearly have drive and determination since you are applying to medical school and you seem to have your head on straight when it comes to relationships. He is acting like an idiot. You did things to try to make him happy, and he basically told you that he would rather be with another girl. His actions say it all. You need to be yourself and expect that someone will love you for the person you are. Don't settle for someone who is willing to do that to you. Also, do I really need to tell you how many guys you will have at your doorstep as a young, single, female med student/doctor? He'll regret it. Just keep doing what you need to do to improve your own life and don't go crazy over things you can't control. Stay strong. Stay positive. Internet hug
d0nnivain Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 Your guy wanted to end things with you long before you lifted that burden from him by kicking him out for cheating. Perhaps you were too serious for him. Perhaps he's just a cad. Either way forget him & move on to medical school. You don't need a cheating liar in your life.
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