scrapironsd Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 I've been dating a women I met online for a couple of weeks now and we have gotten off to a great start. We've had a couple of fantastic dates and she recently informed me that she likes me. We have been cuddling and kissing quite a bit lately. She has been sending me subtle hints that she would like to sleep with me, but I don't want to rush things and what if I'm wrong? Don't get me wrong, I want to sleep with her too. I guess I'm just not sure how to approach it. I am cooking for her tomorrow night (1st time she will have visited my place), so I'm guessing she may want to take that next step. Any advice on how to proceed to the next step, or will things just happen naturally?
acrosstheuniverse Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 Things should happen naturally, as long as you are open to it. Sitting on the couch together snuggling and watching a movie are ideal moments to make a move because you're already close. Do YOU want to take the next step, though? This seems to be all about what she wants. When I really like a guy I rarely sleep with him unless we've decided on exclusivity but usually sex happens for the first time the first night we spend together once we've kinda 'made it official', one of us will offer for the other person to sleep over and then it's kinda a tacit understanding... sharing the same bed, stuff probably gonna happen etc. But do whatever feels right for you. If you're planning on sleeping with her why not ask her if she wants to stay over so she's prepared for a sleepover and feels comfortable at your place? When it's happened spontaneously with guys before but I didn't know they wanted me to sleep over I've always had to leave (everything I needed for bed was at home) and that's a less than romantic end to your first night of sex.
Redhead14 Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 I've been dating a women I met online for a couple of weeks now and we have gotten off to a great start. We've had a couple of fantastic dates and she recently informed me that she likes me. We have been cuddling and kissing quite a bit lately. She has been sending me subtle hints that she would like to sleep with me, but I don't want to rush things and what if I'm wrong? Don't get me wrong, I want to sleep with her too. I guess I'm just not sure how to approach it. I am cooking for her tomorrow night (1st time she will have visited my place), so I'm guessing she may want to take that next step. Any advice on how to proceed to the next step, or will things just happen naturally? First of all, what is it you want for yourself in the long run out of your dating experience? Do you want a casual relationship with intimacy or a long-term committed relationship? Are you at a place right now where you think you'd like to explore that opportunity with her on a deeper level? If you are, then open a conversation about exclusivity with her. It doesn't have to mean boyfriend/girlfriend at this point, it's just an opportunity for further evaluation and focusing on each other with the understanding that if it isnt working for one or neither of you, that you both would move on. IF YOU want that with her, then open a very casual, light conversation to say something like "I've been enjoying the time we spend together and I don't want to date anyone else at this point." And, let her talk. If she really is on the same page with you and agrees to it, then usually it becomes the "magic moment" and you seal it with a kiss and then . . .
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